As much as it pains me to say it.... I feel the same way. My husband doesn't OWN me but he does have a say in what / who I do. This goes beyond sex for us. We respect each other so we allow the other to have a say in what we do. He shares me and I share him and we enjoy it. I allow him to enjoy whomever he wants (as long as there's not some good reason for me to say no), and he allows me to play with others as he is comfortable.
I do feel like we got tied up a lot around here in semantics, getting caught on one word or phrase instead of taking in the whole feeling of a post or issue. Instead of asking questions to clarify a situation we jump to conclusions sometimes. This definitely scares away some people and that's just sad, especially when those people are new to this site and often new to swinging. It's not a feeling we should be putting out there. I would hope we are here to help others and not just to sound smarter than someone else or to hear ourselves talk.