11 hours ago, couplers said:

No reason for Ray to be an ex-best friend.  She could have made them better friends.  And still be a FWB herself.  Particularly with a woman, there's enough to go around.

Experience has taught me the same!

But when you're young and possessive pride can get in the way of a good thing.

If your woman likes to fuck that makes you a lucky man!  Give her the freedom to explore and you will be repaid countless times over!

On 10/27/2024 at 5:17 AM, couplers said:

She isn't married, engaged, or going steady, but mentions three boyfriends who spends the night or travels with her.  ("I was late this morning because I stayed with Stephen.")

 

And the boyfriends apparently have other partners as well, who she nonchalantly accepts.  ("I wanted to see Stephen this weekend, but he was with Suzie.")

 

My point is that although she may not be in the lifestyle, the lifestyle open-mindedness is in the vanilla world.  She thought that the bride and best man going for "one last fling before the ring" was normal. 

Thinking about it, Daniela and I were sort of like that. We weren't swingers before we started dating, but as we got closer it was clear that we were both seeing (i.e. fucking) other people. We even talked about it obliquely, like how, as said above, we spent the night or weekend at someone else's place. As we started the marriage conversation, we became monogamous and continued for about two years after we got married. We both just assumed that the other expected it, but we continued to talk about our past and it led to Daniela hotwifing for a while then us doing traditional swapping.

6 hours ago, DutchWiggy said:

I know, still looking

Most guys get social pressure not to get serious about a woman who is a slut. Believe me, from personal experience and talking with other middle aged guys, you'd rather have a wife who likes sex too much, more than you can provide and needs to step out once in a while, than a wife who has little or no interest in sex.

On 8/28/2024 at 7:57 AM, blueeyedbeauty said:

I would be so worried a friend of mine would catch feelings. You are very brave cause I could never. 

I really truly want to overcome my insecurities. I just am not sure how. 

My wife is in love with another couple that we play with. She sees them/him often and they exchange "I love you," in front of me. It doesn't bother me at all. Daniela is married to me, we share a home and child together and after whatever she does with him/them, she comes home to me. It also gives me a sense of pride and security that another man (and his wife) loves her and he doesn't just see Daniela as another pussy to fuck and push aside.  Most importantly, other people loving her so deeply is the best insurance if anything should happen to me. Yeah, I have life insurance but there are other people who have "feelings" for my wife as well. 

On 8/27/2024 at 9:04 PM, KatrinaandDriverX said:

“She doth protest too much”.

Methinks.