Well, as promised we went back for seconds. Amanda wanted us to go back before I leave town at the end of the month (work) and my schedule only allowed this last wednesday (8/13). We enjoyed the first time so much that we definitely didn't want to miss out, so much so that I declined a business dinner I was invited to by a client (I know where my priorities lie! )
Anyway, Amanda had mentioned that we would want to meet others this time around, and we did. At dinner we were joined by L. who, l
I guess I should write about what happend with the date I mentioned in my last blog entry.
We meet, I was hot again when I got in his car and we started to make out nice enough once we got to the playroom.
Unfortunatly he seemed to lose interrest once we were naked, and even my best oral work couldn't bring back his errection.
He then told me that he was only split from his ex since 4 weeks, and only wanted to prove to himself (and maybe her as well) that he can have a dozen other women a
Ok.. Discussing the rules, and why..
How about a example:
John and Kim flirted with the lifestyle for years, they talked about it, fantasized about it, and finally agreed to give it a try. For John, just thinking of Kim getting fucked by another man, turned him on immensely. For Kim, yes, having sex with another man had slowly become more erotic, and a turn on, but the thought of sharing the experience with John, for her, became her turn on. Sharing John with another woman was still a d
Getting Started: pt 8 Hang on a second..
Ok, now kiddies, here is where as they say.. The rubber meets the road.
Suppose for a few seconds, you have corresponded with a fantastic couple, things have gone great, and of course they want to meet you..
I say of course because, this isn’t about TALKING, its about DOING.
You talk on the phone, and things seem to go great again.. Nothing pops up that sounds like a red flag..
Schedules are checked and a “date” is set to get together.
well, i suggested we join, much as said above. i had warmed to the idea after some of our other encounters.
we had a great time, everyone was relaxed and fun, making the experience that much more great for us. i actually overheard a conversation at the potluck that caught my attention. She said something about how a lot of regulars don't introduce themselves to newbies, because they don't want to overwhelm them on their first visit. I found that intriguing...something I hadn't thought about
Well, not counting anything we've done before, we officially inducted ourselves into the lifestyle on Wed, August 6th.
This summer we spent 5 weeks apart. We spend 3 weeks apart every couple of months as I go out on tour and usually, about halfway through we start feeling the sexual frustration and start messaging each other with little horny texts, or she'll go and masturbate in a bathroom somewhere and send me pictures, I'll enjoy our homemade movies on my laptop in the hotel, etc.
This
I'm sitting on the patio of a swing club. It is a warm evening and I'm enjoying my last few bites of pineapple salad while watching my wife flirt with a couple from across the room. I feel a set of hands reach around my face to cover my eyes. Next, a friendly kiss is planted on my cheek, then the hands are released from my eyes and I'm met with a sultry welcoming voice, "Hi John!"
It's her! It's..it's that girl that helped me have a tremendous orgasm some nights ago. The one that kissed me
Evidently, I'm just in a really honest mood this afternoon. I just finished sending a response back to the cheating couple that said:
"the fact that you aren't married to each other is not an issue. The fact that you are still married to other people is. Good luck."
Then I blocked them, as I don't feel the need to have them try to lie their way out of having already told us the truth. Then I went on to send an email to the couple we had dinner with on Friday letting them know that while w
Getting started pt 7 - Houston, we have CONTACT
Alrighty then --
Lets suppose, you have COLABORATED on a profile, and put it out there on a few sites.. A couple o days have gone by.. ( usually, less than that, but anything is possible) and as you sign in to your Special Email, you find a letter saying to come read a letter on the site..
You follow the links, sign in out there, and read the email..
Suppose an email like this comes in…
Then What?
PANIC!
Should we reply
Pt 6 - Ready? Set? .. HOLD ON THERE
Ok, You have discussed your fantasies, you have figured out what you wanna try..
Now What..
Here is a personal suggestion, start by picking a screen name, something you can remember easily. Then pick a site, like Yahoo, AOL, or even HOTMAIL. And sign up for a email address using your new screen name.
Why?
Because, it makes a personal email that you don’t have to worry about your kids getting in
I really hoped I could write about something fantastic again soon.
A sexdate were I just clicked with the hot guy and we went off to have hot steamy sex that does not only leave the body but also the mind satisfied.
The last day in the hospital after the cat attack it looked like the problems with the new meds broke and I am my old horny self.
So today I was having a look at the add site and soon enough I found a guy that liked to meet and have drinks on the evening.
We went to a bar and
Where were we...
Ah yes, discussing how people go about the PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS with in the lifestyle..
Lets suppose you have crafted a profile, get a few letters and during this WHOLE process, you have never said, nor have they asked what your experience level is.. This is a disaster in the making..
WHY?
Some people, decide from the very beginning, as in before they leave the HOUSE, that they are out for a night of pleasure, and still others take a few “dates” before they are comf
Getting Started Pt 4 - The Pursuit of Happiness
I am calling pt four the pursuit of happiness for one basic reason.. If you are thinking of this lifestyle, and Are looking for friends to fool around with, then on some level, you are really HOPING to find some form of HAPPINESS, right?
How we find people to play with, and how we ATTRACT them, is often as easy or as difficult as you wish to make it.
Let me gear this directly to the ladies, who are just getting started.. In whatever capaci
Ok.. Now if you have been following parts 1& 1a, and then part 2, you know that, it our firm belief that sharing fantasies and talking about them is the greatest ally you have in moving things from fantasy to reality.
This brings us to a issue that most every person on the planet runs into at some point, if they are involved in the lifestyle or not..
Personal issues or Hang Ups..
Now I am going to be a bit controversial here, and use the idea put forth in the first blog, that, for t
Well, I've talked about the difficulty of finding time with our OSO. We got some of that this weekend!
Gator was working his evening shift and Kitten was working the evening shift on her temporary job. Tech and I had planned a date. Figured to be a good time since it wasn't taking anything away from time spent with Gator and Kitten. We had a good time. Shopping, meal and movie. And then the getting a room idea came up. Fine with Gator and Kitten if we did. The great time we were having made
We initially met this couple over a year ago at our favorite club. We thought they were cool and attractive but then the guy told Pet that they were married but not to each other and his wife thought he was somewhere else (I can't even remember where now). We've seen them several times at the same club together since then but have more or less avoided them because of that knowledge.
So fast forward... this weekend we are on the other side of the state from our favorite club and we see this
well as we were on a down low for a bit and recently got back active, I had put the profile up in SLS, met a nice couple, then the wife descided to update the profile,
a few more chatty folks but not alot of action, I am sure the fact that we are had to connect with has something to do with it, my hours are not condusive to us being together for a chat often.
the couple invited us to a sex toy party, we were unaware that all the couples were going to be swingers which made for a real fun
I ran into the Bread man yesterday...or more accurately, he ran into me.
I was at the dreaded Wally-World and was bending over to pull a couple of cans of soup off the shelve when I heard..."Damnnnnn ! "... I stood up, turned around and there he was. I said hi, how ya doing and what are you up to? His reply was..Staring at your ass and getting a hard-on. To which I cracked up laughing.
It was a good thing there was no one else around as our conversation was definitely not for oth
Ok geez. I emailed this couple on SLS that we thought we might be attracted to and let them know we'd be interested in meeting and asked them to take a look at our profile and let us know if they'd be interested in meeting. They write back that we look interesting and give us their YM handle. We don't really do online chat, so I let them know that and again asked if they were interested in meeting for dinner/drinks sometime. They write back with this attitude that they have kids and are new
Just to keep you informed...like you really want to know. ...We've had some serious talks on the trust and privacy issues.
Kitten is more than aware, again, of my feelings regarding honesty and trust. As much as it hurt to tell her, as well as both husbands, I did tell her that right now I don't trust her. That it'll not be given so freely the third time around. I just can't do that. It may be a sticking point with her and I. She feels she wasn't dishonest. Or at least it was warranted and sh
So this past weekend we hosted a group dinner out with what ended up being 5 couples. One of the couples as it turned out was brand new (never been to anything before). They were young (our ages) and attractive. We were definately attractive but also very hesitant and after finding out that this was this first foray to even meet people not expecting anything from them. Mainly we were just trying to show them a good time and give them a good impression of swingers as a whole. So we did dinne
We've talked about it several times and it seems like in comparison to most people we've been really lucky with those we've met in the lifestyle. I read a book not too long about LUCK and the main point of the book was that those who are (or consider themselves to be) lucky are basically just people who are open to any opportunity. They don't shut themselves down or say "we won't do that". They spot a $100 bill on the ground that others miss because they are looking around as they walk for ot
Talk it out..
What exactly does that mean, Well if you have read part 1and 1a, about fantasies, you know that just having such a vivid imagination isn’t the only thing you need.
At some point you need to express these desires to your SO(significant other) In this Blog entry, I will try to give some ideas and suggestions on how to approach this most daunting of tasks..
ACTUALLY TALKING TO YOUR MATE !
Now this should be easy for any couple considering the lifestyle, because, in realit
