I've debated about putting this in the normal forum posts or putting this in the blog. Obviously, I've decided on the latter because it's more about how I currently feel versus a "problem" that I want to present and gain insight to fix.
For about 6 months, I would say that my excitement for swinging has waned quite a bit. I'm not sure why. I'm not sure how. But whenever we have a free night to go out, I find myself preferring to spend the time with just Mr. Sun. But we usually go out to
I think it would be more efficient for a lot of us if a persons ethnicity could be told on their profiles. I mean as in male/female followed by pick your ethnicity. I mean they ask it on everything else. I know pictures tell all anyway but you may not want to friend someone just to find out their Hispanic or non. I know what I'm looking for when I play. I would love to be able to click: male, click African American; black.
Re: How do I bring up swinging to the wife???
Well folks, we had our first experience last night. It was truely awesome for both of us and we can't wait to do it again.
Monica looked fantastic as we left our house. She was wearing a silk while blouse, black skirt and stockings, and heels. The ride to the hotel was about 30 minutes. We were both nervous, but excited about what was about to happen and the nerves were causing the car ride to be very quiet. At one point, I simply looked at her
We live in a really small, gossipy, buckle of the bible belt town. We aren't natives, and although we have been here 20 years now, we will never be fully accepted for lots of reasons, one of which is we are and always will be outsiders since we can't name one much less 20 relatives that live within a mile of us.
There is a single guy that she casually knows through him being a customer of her company who likes to flirt with her, and she likes him and will flirt back. Lately he's ratcheted t
If you have been following my posts, you know that I do not have tons of sexual experience in this "ethical non monogamy" setting. While sometimes I feel a little frustrated about that, I'm not really upset by it. Here is an example of the reason why.
Last weekend, I had my first visit at a nudist resort. As many of you will know, "nudist resorts" are notorious for frowning strongly on (what we might call) displays of public sexuality. I was there with a (female) friend, but we are not in a p
When we arrived at the club on Saturday night we noticed a few couples that looked familiar. We hadn't been to this club in a while but we used to frequent it, so we knew some faces just looked familiar from having seen them there, and others might have looked familiar from having seen them online. One couple in particular seemed familiar and kept looking at us. We had some friends meeting us there, and shortly after they showed up, the male half of this couple came up to us and asked "are you
Well, that's what it's starting to feel like. There's been a big change in my libido over the past 6 years. Menopause is a bitch.
We had a house party a couple of weeks ago; I did nothing. That is, I was the perfect hostess, in that I didn't play, but just socialized with my guests all night. This isn't the first house party we've attended in the past year or so where that's happened. Simply too often I am not in the mood. Being 53 can really suck.
PB is having trouble understanding a
Any "seasoned" swinger will tell you that they come across these types of scenerios:
-An attractive couple isn't so attractive after speaking with them.
-A couple who you are on the fence about becomes more attractive after talking with them.
-A couple you aren't at all attracted to but you have great conversation with still remains in the we-can't-swap-with camp because you just have no attraction with them at all.
We know how it feels to play with a couple that we aren't attracted to b
Very shortly after arriving at the social on Saturday, the male half of one of a couple that we consider friends and think extremely highly of, pulled me aside "We need to talk". I knew he was right and I knew what we needed to talk about. You see, at the previous party he and I were dancing and it came up that I am very attracted to him. He was surprised saying that he always thought I was more into girls! "WTF! Seriously! No, I like cock. Girls are cool, but no, we are not one of those couple
That's what I just messaged a GF that is going with us to a social tonight. It's her first time going and I can't help but remember how nervous I was going the first time, or even how nervous I still get sometimes. I can only imagine what she must feel like. She knows she will know 3 people at the party. Myself (of course), and she will meet Pet at dinner before we go. And, she will know the SM that introduced her to the idea (well, sort of).
Evidently, she has another female friend who is al
On Mother's Day, our circle of friends was rocked by the death of a dear friend. It was an especially tragic accident, as L was a beautiful person, inside and out. She was great teacher, devoted wife and mother, and volunteered at an animal shelter. She and her husband C were known as one of the most devoted couples you could ever meet. He is, understandably, bereft without her. Hell, were all stunned and heartbroken to learn of her death, and have done our best to make sense of it all a
At the social last night we being our usual friendly selves approaching random couples. We weren't approaching as many because we were trying to focus more on couples that we thought there might actually be a match with rather than just being friendly and approaching everyone. Most couples are friendly with this approach and some not so much. We approached one attractive couple that we spoke to for less than 60 seconds because they just seemed like they wanted us to go away (no smile, no nicety,
That was a question we were asked last night... sadly the response we wanted to give was "not with you".
We were at a pre-party M&G in a hotel suite with anywhere between 3.5-6 couples. There was one couple there that we would totally play with (if it was just us and them)... unfortunately, that wasn't the couple who asked us this question (and yes their intentions were obvious). Sadly, she was overly aggressive with every man (and woman) in the room, to the point of making everyone unco
Am I the only one whose bedroom looks like this on the afternoon of a party. I think it took me 2 hours to find something to wear last night. It's been almost a year since we've been to a party and I've lost so much weight in the last year and a half that almost nothing from last year fit. I actually had to go way back into my older dresses from 10 years ago to find one that fit. This left me standing out from the crowd a good bit. Any other night maybe 25% of the ladies would dress to theme, ev
I'm watching a documentary about the country singer, Chely Wright, coming out as a gay woman. It really makes me sad to watch it and to think about how hard it must be to put yourself out there so publicly as one person, when you are someone else. As I think about it, I can't help but wonder if it's so different than who we are. Perhaps, it's more so for someone like me who has a large part of their life built around swinging. It is my business as well as my personal life. It does often drive m
Today I was watching a rerun of Numbers, The case they were working on had nothing to do with where I’m going here, in the episode they were talking about starting their own “Think Tank”.
For me this is my swinger’s think tank, we have so many great people here who are willing to share their knowledge and experience. Many of the posts and replies cause me to stop and think “what would I do in that situation”. There are many times that I don’t have a ready answer, and have to think about how
Just thought that I would post this up to help some of the newer people to see where some of us experienced swingers are coming from and where we have been.
If anyone tells you that they have never had an issue in their relationship while swinging they are full of shit, I’m not saying that everyone has had a big issue but all of us who are in this as a couple have had bumps in the road.
We have had several minor bumps and 2 major hills to overcome. The bumps are just that, bumps, nothing tha
I really don't know if ny of our locals read this or not but I'm kind of pissed off, we invited 7 couples and 2 singles to meet with us tonight and noone came to meet with us. we had asked them to come talk to us about what they wanted in the way of events.
We hear about how everyone in our area want us or someone to host bigger events than the house parties that are happening a few times a year, and no one wants to help or even give advice on how they wantthese events to happen, what kind of
L and I have decided that we are going to write about all our adventues in 21 years of swinging. So far we have made it through the first 9 months. We are writing it from mostly my perspective, but she will have her say about some of her solo adventures as well. I thought it was going to be easier when I started a few days ago. I have a whole new respect for professional writers. Who knows it might be the next best seller on amazon ebooks. I will be posting some of it here as I get further along
I was at work yesterday, when a young nurse walked by.
Just so you know I'm a power limited contractor doing mostly comercial work.
As she passed she looked at me, then she turned and looked again, she continued down the hall and around the corner. Not that unusual as we were blocking half the hall with our ladder. I have never been the kind to turn female heads so I didn't think anything of it and went back to work.
About an hour latter the same nurse walked by again and did the look a
Just have to rant a bit, We are involved in approving pics and profiles on a swinger’s site. I just spent 2 hours going over many profiles and 100’s of pics.
I have no idea what some people are thinking!
On the profile side, How many miss spellings can one person make, and some of the comments are so far out there to not be believable, Or there is so little info at all that you could do from it and pass.
The pictures are even worse! First of all good god open your eyes, unless of course
L just read my retelling of our disney adventure and asked me to relate another episode from our younger days.
It was a beautiful summer day in 1991, must have been late August because our son had just turned one, L's mom had come to town for a week for his B-day party and to visit. It was early Saturday morning when she said to us " why don't you take the day to yourselves I'll watch the little one."
Now as most of you know when you have a little one and the mil offers to take him for the d
Reading some of the other blog posts reminded me of this.
Wow 17 years ago we took a family trip to Disney with my parents and my sister and our then 5 year old son. We were staying in one of the wilderness cabins, all 6 of us, needless to say things were a little tight and there was no way L and I were going to get any alone time, not that we didn't try. We used every ruse we could think of from sending the parents and sister to the pool with the boy to feigning a headache so we could head b
