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Guaranteed Sex...WTF, Over?

Wow! It's been a while since I rambled here...but the weather has reached 'Pool Condition 1', so I use laptop-in-the-lounger as a way of not over-napping. (Gotta pace myself!)   A recent topic that I responded to reminded me of something that has become increasingly annoying to us over the last few years - Swingers who are looking for guaranteed play.   The first rule of swinging is 'No means No' - and an extension of that is, we have always thought, 'there is no circumstance that makes that n
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A Summer's Day Rant

In my opinion, something that is putting a damper on the Lifestyle for many is that it's pretty much a playground that anyone with a computer can, to an extent, play on. The simple fact of the matter is that thanks to the Internet, anyone can play 'Swinger'...and they do! One thing that is often suggested is that swinging is more 'mainstream' today - less underground. At the risk of being accused of nit-picking, I would argue that the idea of swinging is much more accepted and prevelant as a s
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Methods To Meet Others

Once a couple has decided to include others in their sexual exploration, the next question that comes up is how to meet others of like mind. Although the choice of methods has pretty much settled into a certain few, new methods are totally possible with the passage of time and advances in technology, societal attitude etc.   We started our Lifestyle journey as a couple when there was no internet... 'swing' ads were fairly 'shoot an arrow in the air' things in underground papers that pretty much
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Rejection

A fear of rejection is probably one of the most common fears that people have, some to a larger degree than others. It applies and can handicap participation in just about any endeavor requiring interaction with other people - careers, dating, relationships and on and on. There is quite a bit of psychology behind the fear of rejection..but what's important is one's ability (or inability) to deal with it. That holds doubly true if you actually plan on doing something with others in the Lifestyl
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Boundries

Once you and your partner have decided to invite others into your sex life, you have to define your boundries. There are some couples in the lifestyle who claim that for them "everything goes" or "we love it all"..but we personally shy away from them, because we have found that they tend to be prone to 'pushing' other's boundries and are famous for the question, "How do you know you don't like it if you have never tried it?" While that logic does apply to some endeavors, it has very few sexual a
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Communication: Open and Honest

Probably the first issue that springs to my mind regarding a couple's decision to explore the Lifestyle is communication.   Before you can interact with others in the lifesyle, open and honest communication between yourself and your signifcant other is crucial. This further expands to include communicating with others. Few things piss off lifestyle couples more than meeting a couple who are not both on the same sheet of music!   Example: We met a couple once in which the wife was portrayed
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Passing It On..but first, a disclamier LOL

A lot of the topics I post to in the forums I find are thought provoking, often with easy to misinterpret responses that would better be served with detailed answers... but I suspect that many readers prefer forum posts to be shorter and therefore a quicker read. Unfortunatly, that can (and often does) result in as many questions on one's view on a subject than answers to the original post! So, in an attempt to provide a more detailed account of my views, I've decided that blogging here might b
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