Getting Started - A Summary of Tips
TIPS
We have compiled some helpful tips to help you deal with issues in the swinger lifestyle. These tips can be useful to anyone currently in the lifestyle or those looking to begin experimenting.
OPEN COMMUNICATION
Open communication is necessary for success in any relationship, but is especially important in the swinging lifestyle. We only recommend swinging with couples we believe are in the lifestyle for the right reasons and are open and h
Getting Started - pt 10 - Melting the ICE
Ok, you have your target in your sites.... And suddenly.. You revert to a 12 year old.. playing spin the bottle..
Or the mentality of GOOFY… “ Awww,shucks, Gosh !!”
No Need to FEAR… the INFO IS HERE!!
Its completely normal to be nervous, hell, you are about to engage in activity that, while erotic and fantastic, is usually right out of the fantasies or letters written to PENTHOUSE..
Being nervous, having that tension can be fun, and shou
Getting Started pt 9c - the first meeting, Another Woman
Ahh Yes, the Unicorns..
Those of us with experience in the lifestyle refer to single women within the lifestyle as just that Unicorns, often talked about, but seldom seen
This will be possibly the shortest entry in the series for one reason, After 13 years of being involved in the lifestyle, we have YET to find one.
So, given the fact that, I can not speak from experience, the best course of action I can give in this instance i
Now then, the bags packed, she is dressed to kill and you are ready to go, the just in case reservations have been made.. Anything else you need to deal with to go away for the evening has been taken care of, such as a sitter scheduled, days ahead.
You head out the door, and the nerves have grown the butterflies into flying saucers. It might be a good idea to both get on the same page as to what happens If.. If things are ready to go to the next level, or If they aren’t. Make it clear that bo
Getting Started pt 9b - the first meeting, Another Man
Ok, lets suppose you have decided to try something a bit different.. Definitely EASIER.
Lets suppose, you have decided to satisfy her fantasy, of adding another guy, to your bedroom fun.
After pouring thru the thousands of single man profiles, getting dozens of emails from all sorts of individuals, you settle on one. You talked via IM and he seems like a great choice, spoke on the phone and again, seems like he is just right. After
So you meet these people, and things go fairly well.. They are as personable in person as they were during the other conversations online and on the phone.
Guys, you need to be paying attention to your wife/girlfriend.. Is she talking, or quiet.. Remember she is still just as nervous as you are.. Keep the conversation going, and make sure to involve her. Do Not allow her to retreat into a shell..
Girls, here is a different key to watch for, Is your Guy, acting like an idiot.. Being loud?
Getting started: pt 9a - The First Meet - Another Couple
Ok, we have covered all the possible things that can happen leading up to heading out the door. The date is set, the sitter is set to be at your place in plenty of time for you to leave to make your “Date”
And then as the morning turns to afternoon, the nerves kick into high gear.. By 3 o clock the butterflies are the size of Goodyear blimps..
Now, a note to my favorite readers, you lovely ladies.. Here is the tip for how to p
Ok.. Discussing the rules, and why..
How about a example:
John and Kim flirted with the lifestyle for years, they talked about it, fantasized about it, and finally agreed to give it a try. For John, just thinking of Kim getting fucked by another man, turned him on immensely. For Kim, yes, having sex with another man had slowly become more erotic, and a turn on, but the thought of sharing the experience with John, for her, became her turn on. Sharing John with another woman was still a d
Getting Started: pt 8 Hang on a second..
Ok, now kiddies, here is where as they say.. The rubber meets the road.
Suppose for a few seconds, you have corresponded with a fantastic couple, things have gone great, and of course they want to meet you..
I say of course because, this isn’t about TALKING, its about DOING.
You talk on the phone, and things seem to go great again.. Nothing pops up that sounds like a red flag..
Schedules are checked and a “date” is set to get together.
Getting started pt 7 - Houston, we have CONTACT
Alrighty then --
Lets suppose, you have COLABORATED on a profile, and put it out there on a few sites.. A couple o days have gone by.. ( usually, less than that, but anything is possible) and as you sign in to your Special Email, you find a letter saying to come read a letter on the site..
You follow the links, sign in out there, and read the email..
Suppose an email like this comes in…
Then What?
PANIC!
Should we reply
Pt 6 - Ready? Set? .. HOLD ON THERE
Ok, You have discussed your fantasies, you have figured out what you wanna try..
Now What..
Here is a personal suggestion, start by picking a screen name, something you can remember easily. Then pick a site, like Yahoo, AOL, or even HOTMAIL. And sign up for a email address using your new screen name.
Why?
Because, it makes a personal email that you don’t have to worry about your kids getting in
Where were we...
Ah yes, discussing how people go about the PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS with in the lifestyle..
Lets suppose you have crafted a profile, get a few letters and during this WHOLE process, you have never said, nor have they asked what your experience level is.. This is a disaster in the making..
WHY?
Some people, decide from the very beginning, as in before they leave the HOUSE, that they are out for a night of pleasure, and still others take a few “dates” before they are comf
Getting Started Pt 4 - The Pursuit of Happiness
I am calling pt four the pursuit of happiness for one basic reason.. If you are thinking of this lifestyle, and Are looking for friends to fool around with, then on some level, you are really HOPING to find some form of HAPPINESS, right?
How we find people to play with, and how we ATTRACT them, is often as easy or as difficult as you wish to make it.
Let me gear this directly to the ladies, who are just getting started.. In whatever capaci
Ok.. Now if you have been following parts 1& 1a, and then part 2, you know that, it our firm belief that sharing fantasies and talking about them is the greatest ally you have in moving things from fantasy to reality.
This brings us to a issue that most every person on the planet runs into at some point, if they are involved in the lifestyle or not..
Personal issues or Hang Ups..
Now I am going to be a bit controversial here, and use the idea put forth in the first blog, that, for t
Talk it out..
What exactly does that mean, Well if you have read part 1and 1a, about fantasies, you know that just having such a vivid imagination isn’t the only thing you need.
At some point you need to express these desires to your SO(significant other) In this Blog entry, I will try to give some ideas and suggestions on how to approach this most daunting of tasks..
ACTUALLY TALKING TO YOUR MATE !
Now this should be easy for any couple considering the lifestyle, because, in realit
After the past two months of reading and answering posts from all sorts of NEWBIES, about how to get started.. I have decided to sit and write a few random thoughts down, to help in those wildest of pursuits.. This Lifestyle.. Or Swinging..
It doesn’t matter what it is about the fun that can be partaken of, adding a third, getting together with another couple, or going to a party/club and getting in a big pile of human flesh, something about all of this has stimulated the brain cells and in r
