Well, Brandy, I've been on the other side of the situation you describe. Younger men. In fact, my other husband is 7 years younger than I am. Not too much at our age but enough that I had some concerns before meeting them. He doesn't get that. Part of it I've come to realize is the way I was raised. Part of it was a question of why? Why would he want to be with someone older? Stereotypes, I know. He isn't the only younger man we've met with so, I wanted to tell you how I handled it. First, I "told" myself age didn't matter. Then, I decided to give them a chance. Otherwise, we wouldn't have met. I found what it boiled down to was just what you were pointing out. Maturity. Some 25 year olds have vast amounts of that while some 45 year olds are sorely lacking in that area. Look what I would have passed up on, another man to love, if I hadn't been willing to give it a try. Hang in there. A couple will come along that will look past the age to see you. It happens. No more than a few minutes into our meeting, I had totally forgotten Tech's age. Now, it is just something I use to tease him. "Do you remember....? Oh, no, you are too young to remember that.":)

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Sometimes Jon forgets that I was five when he graduated, so most of the tv shows and celebrities are unknown to me. It works though, we both listen to the same music, (big Pink Floyd and Motley Crue fans-Vince and Tommy can still put on a good live show) and we are both BSG (battlestar) watchers, I like the old Apollo better...

What drives me crazy is that Jon can't understand that I don't want to play with anyone (couple or swingle) that is my age or younger. We only play together, but he started flirting with a 26/22 yr old cpl, I said no way. I atcually decided if he wanted to play with kids, (this couple had very little maturity in the profile and none in the pics- looked like high school students playing with mom's camera...) That they could have him in a 3-some. And that I would voice verify my permission, they never wrote back, and so now his ego is busted and he feels like the "take one" half of the couple. I said no for a lot of reasons, I just don't get along with my age-group peers. I don't listen to rap or hip hop, and mtv is never on in my home. There's nothing to have in common. lol Oh well...

I was a little irritated over being asked a lot about whether I'm ready or not, they even keep asking Jon. I can understand the worry, because at the very beginning, it will be difficult to watch. But I understand and want that pleasure on the other side... lol That couple is close to Jon's age, the older 48-65 crowd is willing to go--no questions asked... that cracks me up.

I keep thinking about the thread where a gentleman died at the club.... and how I would explain the situation to parametics called to a hotel room!?

I was basically where you are. I started swinging very young (21) and due to many circumstances I've always been a good bit more mature than my age and have always found myself surrounded by people much older than me. My first husband was 8 years older than me. Oddly, I never had an issue when it came to swinging and we typically did swing with people who were at least his age if not even older. I think often the guys looked at me as a "prize" because I was so young (it made them feel good or young). I an look back now (at 32) and see a huge difference in who I was then and who I am now, much of what I wanted out of life changed... or maybe I finally figured out what I wanted, but the way I think didn't change. Ok,maybe it did in some respects, I am more open minded now. I see how important communication really is in a relationship (I talked about how important it was but my relationship really didn't have it - not for lack of trying on my part - which is a large part of why my first marriage ended). Looking back I think the only thing we really had in common was swinging.