Getting started pt 7 - Houston, we have CONTACT

Alrighty then --

Lets suppose, you have COLABORATED on a profile, and put it out there on a few sites.. A couple o days have gone by.. ( usually, less than that, but anything is possible) and as you sign in to your Special Email, you find a letter saying to come read a letter on the site..

You follow the links, sign in out there, and read the email..

Suppose an email like this comes in…

Hi,

 

We came across your profile, WoW! We were blown away! We loved your profile and what we have learned so far..

 

Then What?

PANIC!

Should we reply?

What to say, when you write back?

WHAT TO DO?!?

Ok.. First off, lets back up. The nice letter, is from people who already are interested in YOU.. So, pull their profile up..

What does it say? Hopefully, its as Detailed as yours is.. Do their “wants” match yours?

Ok, here is the best course of action, Show the profile and the letter to your SO, and ask them what they think..

Then write them back.. This can take only TWO possible tracks.. The First, a positive one.. The Second a negative.. And the reason WHY you would write back to a writer that isn’t your cup o tea, to politely explain that you aren’t interested is for ONE simple reason..

Do what you would expect for yourselves.. Or.. Better yet, because, its simply EASIER to let the folks know, so they don’t KEEP writing you.. You would be AMAZED, how many times this can and will happen if they don’t know your position..

So, If every thing is good so far, Say hello, and introduce yourselves.. Explain that you are still new to all of this, and be clear that as such you aren’t sure where this all might lead.. If they do not have simple pictures on their profile , ASK for one.. Do not go overboard, Keep it SIMPLE.. You aren’t writing a BOOK.. LOL

Now then, points to make,

FIRST.. Never share your Off site email BEFORE exchanging a few letters back and forth.. This ensures that they are for real, and gives you a chance to try and gauge where they might be coming from.. Do they seem OVER EAGER? Or what we refer to as PUSHY..

Let me explain this a bit more.. From our PERSONAL point of VIEW..

We have over the years gotten tons of letters, most are great, then there are those that from the first letter, put their phone number on it, AND want you to call..

Or they are so excited to meet you they want to do it.. In an hour, tomorrow night.. Saturday at 5:43PM in front of WENDY’S..

NEVER do this, as eager as they are, More Often than NOT, they WON”T be respectful of your PACE, or more to the point, How slowly you want to go.. Before you are comfortable.

Its better to hold off, for a more understanding responder..

Getting back to the point, Lets imagine, that, later that night they reply to your letter, attach a nice g rated picture, and maybe a picture with a bit MORE Exposure.. They include their off site address, and a messenger screen name..

How you proceed is up to you, if it’s a service you already use, and your LIFESTYLE email address is on, Like Yahoo, or MSN/hotmail .. You certainly can open a chat window and see if they are on.. And or send a offline message..

Or you could reply thru the service, with another letter. Again, this is entirely up to you, But as was detailed above, BE CLEAR, as to your experience level, and how quickly, or slowly you want to go..

We have talked over the years with plenty of newbies, even broke a few in.. lol.. But the constant is, letting them, or in this case YOU set your own pace..

Anyone you are in contact with MUST be understanding of this.. it’s a choice not everyone wants to make, some prefer to go with people that KNOW what they want, and are sure they are INTO IT..

Y’see, it has also happened that, after spending a few weekends together, out to Dinner, and when it got down to the final moments, in a nice quiet motel room, She was so nervous, she was shaking really bad.. as the clothes started coming off, Fumbling with clothing, I tool her hands and asked her if she wanted to stop. She said in a real quiet voice, yes.. And that was the end of the night.. Her husband and my wife, stopped, and we sat down and talked..

She wanted to go thru with it, but wasn’t ready.. She was afraid, of everything. (THIS IS COMPLETELY NORMAL!!) and was almost sick with the nervous tension. I explained that I understood, and we DIDN’T have to do anything.. Her husband was pissed, and I even offered to take her for a cup of coffee, and let them continue.. Instead he said No, they were going home..

We salvaged the night, by spending it together, my wife and I. After we got home the next day, we got a call, and it was the other woman. I put her on the phone with my wife, and they talked for the better part of an hour and a half. From what I was told, the whole ride home he was pissed, that she didn’t “just do it”.. My wife explained that it wasnt the way WE do this, for starters.. And that, her issue was, not what you may be thinking.. Despite feeling MY REACTION.. She was afraid to be completely naked, with us.. The having sex part didn’t bother her, She wanted that… it was being nude..

The following weekend, we set things up close to the same again, and had another date.. This time however, Instead of getting things started the same, a clandestine trip was put together.. Right after we got the room, and got in, My wife need something more to drink, so off to 7-11 we went, He and I.. we grabbed the stupid drinks, and went back.. Having been gone 10 to 15 minutes, it gave them the time they had discussed.. And when we got back, both beautiful women were NEARLY naked.. In some sexy lingerie.. Lounging on the bed together.. ( OH GOD!! ONE IN RED, THE OTHER IN BLACK.. LACE.. SILK.. HOT DAMN!!)

Needless to say, it was a GREAT FUCKING NIGHT.. No nerves.. With plenty of firsts.. For them and even one for my wife..

Now what was the point behind that?

Anyone you are giving yourselves to, MUST be worthy.. And willing to proceed at your pace..

During the same time period of us spending time with this couple we heard from friends, that wanted to “do something”.. TRANSLATION- LETS GET TOGETHER AND GET NAKED.. Or a SURE THING..

Could we have begged off to go spend a night with them, sure, but sometimes, just sometimes the PURSUIT of HAPPINESS, is just as important as the HAPPINESS itself..

And in the end, when our other friends called again, we asked how they would feel if we brought some friends, they loved the idea, and when we spoke to our other friends, they said sure, and yes the nerves were there, but it was easier..

Ok.. Lets pick this up in the next chapter..

Heading out for the first meet..