Getting Started: pt 8 Hang on a second..

Ok, now kiddies, here is where as they say.. The rubber meets the road.

Suppose for a few seconds, you have corresponded with a fantastic couple, things have gone great, and of course they want to meet you..

I say of course because, this isn’t about TALKING, its about DOING.

You talk on the phone, and things seem to go great again.. Nothing pops up that sounds like a red flag..

Schedules are checked and a “date” is set to get together.

And you are ready to head out the door, right?

Not just yet … there needs to be a serious conversation again between you both.. On the subject of what if

What If, they are as great as they seem?

What If, we are comfortable with them?

What If, we aren’t comfortable with them?

What If, She is a Bitch, and he is OK? Or vise versa?

And So on.. One of the biggest things that ANY person involved in this lifestyle faces each and every time is, the rush, the nerves, and the excitement.. All mixed together, because unless you are able to read minds, and can read who you are meeting, you just never know.

Now, the topic of the conversation is What If, and the reason it really needs to be discussed before hand is because, in the moment, there are no time outs.. You cant say, excuse us for a second while we talk about you..

Its much easier to get the conversation and the other potential issue worked out before you get ready to leave, like DAYS before.

The other potential issue is, THE RULES..

Its completely normal to come up with a set of rules and guidelines to govern the issue of play.. What’s in and out of bounds.. Sure you said so on the profile you posted, but there are more rules..

Where do you stand on kissing playmates?

Hell, where do you stand on Dancing with your potential playmates, well BEFORE the clothes even come off?

If things go great, Do you “GO FOR IT”, or wait?

Where do you stand on separating, and going to other rooms?

Where do you stand on the types of potential play?

These are things that need to be worked out.. between you both.. That can’t be answered by anyone BUT you.

The other thing that needs to be reinforced over and over again. The emotional component, How you feel about each other, Because regardless of how strong the relationship, the little green eyed monster pops up at EVERY opportunity. Telling your S.O. how you feel about them and that you LOVE them, can go a long way.. And re enforcing the basic principle that, At the end of the night, you are still going home with each other regardless of what happens BEFORE you go home.

Nothing ends a couples involvement in swinging faster than to have an un resolved issue, compounded by jealousy. It is completely normal! The pangs of jealousy, come from every direction when you are in this lifestyle.

(Cont in pt 8a)