Ok.. Discussing the rules, and why..

How about a example:

John and Kim flirted with the lifestyle for years, they talked about it, fantasized about it, and finally agreed to give it a try. For John, just thinking of Kim getting fucked by another man, turned him on immensely. For Kim, yes, having sex with another man had slowly become more erotic, and a turn on, but the thought of sharing the experience with John, for her, became her turn on. Sharing John with another woman was still a difficult thought for her.

They posted a profile, and wrote a few letters, and before they knew it, they were meeting a new couple. Tina and Alex, Over dinner they seemed like old friends, instead of people that had just met, and as the check was paid.. Tina asked a question that they knew was coming.. Did they want to go somewhere tonight or wait, she asked and then quickly added, ‘Cause they were sure they wanted to if John and Kim did. They all sat back down, and ordered another round of drinks, and talked a bit more.

John looked to Kim, Kim looked to John and neither knew how the other felt. Alex saw this and excused himself and Tina so they could talk, and went to the bar. John asked Kim what she thought, and Kim gave the concern she as feeling voice and said to John, she was nervous over seeing John with Tina.. But added it was ok to go ahead.

They caught up with Alex and Tina explained things and off they went to a local Hotel. As the doors closed the nervous energy shot thru the roof for John and Kim. Alex took Kim’s hand and Tina did the same for John. As Tina kissed John, she un buttoned her dress and as she stepped out of it she was nearly nude… She had gone without panties, a and now was only dressed in Thigh Highs.. She quickly set about getting John undressed. As they slowly and erotically undressed each other, Johns attention was drawn to Alex and his wife.

Tina, to her credit, saw what was happening and maneuvered John to have a clear view. Thinking that was John wanted, to see as Alex and Kim were engaged in a hot kiss. And as Kim’s dress hit the floor, Alex’s fingers found their way into Kim. She moaned a bit louder than she usually did with John, and as Her hands un did Alex’s pants, Johns were already on the floor with Tina kneeling between his legs, giving him a near professional blow job.

As Kim drew Alex’s cock out into the open, and was holding her first foreign cock in 13 years.. John began to experience something he had never before.. Despite the expertise of Tina, he was slowly losing his erection.

Again, Tina, knew what was happening, and slowly turned John away from what she thought he would enjoy to bring his attention back to her. She stood and placed her hands on his shoulders pushing him back onto the bed.. And as she climbed on her self she reminded him of his internet promise.. Then firmly planted a knee on either side of his head..

As john focused on the erotic task at hand, he slowly put the site of his wife and Alex out of his head, and sure enough, his cock returned to its former firmness. Across the room, Kim was thoroughly enjoying Alex’s oral skills and turned to give him the same in a 69 as she sunk her mouth over his cock, She moaned again, and he matched hers… As she began to enjoy herself more, she looked up, to see where John was.. It struck her funny that in the ten minutes they had been ‘engaged” she hadn’t looked before.. And she looked to see Tina playing with her own nipples and on the verge of orgasm.. When Tina’s orgasm hit she nearly shrieked as it hit her.. And Kim, hearing/seeing this, Came hard herself, knowing her husband ate that woman to such a stimulated height.

She slowed her head bobbing as watched as Tina, with all the skill of a gymnast was at one minute on John’s Tongue, and the next, had him sliding all the way into her, and as She hit bottom with a inch still to go, Kim came again.. Despite enjoying the flesh in her mouth, she popped Alex out of her mouth and moaned oh god, please fuck me…

That caught John attention again.. Tina whispered to John.. If you want to watch, you had better be ready to finish what WE started here.. To further emphasize her point she squeezed his cock with her internal muscles.. He returned to slowly thrusting and meeting her as she hit bottom..

As he casually turned his attention to the other bed, Alex was poised to enter Kim, missionary style. As he slowly sunk into her, She let out another long moan, and enjoyed yet another climax, As he ground into her pubic bone. Alex was a handsome man, and “well equipped” but, her own husband was a bit longer, Alex a bit wider.. It was the excitement of the moment, and the feeling of someone new, that was driving her crazy.

For years Kim while not against the idea, wasn’t keen on the idea of doing this.. Now she regretted every minute between the first time John and her had talked about it, and that very second.

As john heard his wife, cum again, His own excitement seemed to wane a bit, and then Tina, brought him back to where he was again, and once again, her Kegel muscles grabbed him internally.

Oh no, you aren’t going anywhere, ‘til I GET to cum.. Tina threatened.. And their pace picked up, and Tina started moaning..

John looked over and saw his wife fucking on the bed a few feet away, and could see Alex enjoying the woman he married.. And the site started to work on him.. Tina was drawn out of her moaning as she felt it too.. Instead of losing his erection, Now John’s cock was filling her.. And growing even harder..

She leaned down and kissed John’s lips, and then breathless and moaning again, see, once that monster gets outta the way, it gets even better.. Then she kissed him again, and said, If you like seeing her with Alex, wait ‘til they finish and I can get a taste..

Now, then..

Put that away!

Good example huh?

BUT it’s the truth.. Jealousy happens, even when what we find a turn on happens.. And another little secret, it can happen the first time, or the fifty-first time.. Just depends, on the EVERYTHING.. Environment, the people, the activity.. Anything and everything..

BUT, our example also points out another factor.. Suppose John and Kim had discussed well before going to dinner, if things went great, would they? Or, would they make sure, and wait..

Suppose the unwritten part is a hang up? Tina make a flat out suggestion of a little woman 2 woman contact..

This is why, as a TEAM, you and your SO are the ones in charge, and make all your own rules.. Others have to play by, and expect you to follow theirs.. Suppose Tina and Alex, agreed that, Tina would make the first move.. ‘Til she did, Alex was a willing player yes, but She was the one making the rulings..

OK, while it sounds great in theory.. But it seldom happens that way.

There are a few ways around it, and some can even be fun..

Suppose over dinner, you want to find out how your SO feels about heading somewhere private and getting much less dressed with these people..

You can’t as the story suggests expect the other couple to be as obliging as Tina and Alex were, and leave the table so you can talk..

Suppose instead, you and your SO, came up with a simple way of getting the point across to the other, WITHOUT excusing yourselves, or better yet, letting the other people know..

How? Simple, by talking out the what ifs, well before hand, you can set up a code .. Lets say, you took a cruise, and it was great.. Bringing that up in a conversation, is fairly innocent, Right? How about a nightmare trip, we all have them.. And again, bringing up that sort of trip can be done easily too..

Code words.. Cruise - GOOD

Trip to Aunt Shelia’s - BAD

See.. And you thought this wasn’t fun.. Of course, having all the plans in the world, are meaningless, unless you plan to use them, and in the next chapter we will cover HEADING OUT THE DOOR