same here. it took almost two months before we had a play date with a couple we met and knew that we were comfortable enough to play with! Being the first one, I guess we wanted to get it over and done with so we could get rid of the nerves.

It's hard for us because we have one child who lives with us full time, and another we have every 4th weekend. We had to hire a babysitter for our play date to happen

As for feeling sexier? Hell yeah! Nothing makes you feel sexier than people wanting to have sex with you...and for me, confidence and being comfortable in you own skin is way better than the perfect body. I'm a mum, I have a couple of stretchmarks and a little extra skin around the belly and a pair of breasts that withstood breastfeeding for 12 months..i feel sexy as hell cos they are my badges of motherhood..

Ok I'm going to stop rambling now, that is reserved for the blogger, not the commenter

Cheers, Mrs K&T

This has always been an issue for my wife and I too (body image)

Right now its what is keeping us on hold actually. Until we feel we really look good, we dont really want to get out there.

I have so much admiration for people who are genuinely happy with who they are (I mean not counting Ken and Barbie - LOL ) This has just always been hard for us.

Anyhow... Another great entry

Mrs K&T - I know! It's such a balancing act between taking it slow (what your head wants to do) and jumping in (what your nether regions would prefer). i got really lucky...but that's a different blog entry. and totally keep rambling!! i like the conversation aspect of comments...it's entirely allowed on my blog!

mixitupcpl - i came to a decision point (granted it happened on the first day when i signed up and started getting messages, and only took about 5 minutes) where i had to decide whether i wanted to wait till i had a perfect body. but i thought...what the heck! you are all strangers right now anyway...and i really don't fear rejection from strangers...so i decided to jump in anyway. it worked out to my advantage, I've realized there are so many different kinds of people here, and i've gained more confidence.

of course, my *actual* plan was to put up the pictures...and if people seemed TOTALLY revolted...I was then going to lose all the weight, get hot, make a COMPLETELY new profile, and introduce myself as someone else. LOL. instead, i'll probably just refresh the profile every few months and erase the old galleries, lol.

Life is a work in progress.....and of course your body can be part of that work...Me and my wife change our profiles as we change (hopefully for the better) . Just dont get hung up on other people's approval of your self be it physical, or emotional , or your intelligence. etc. I know I'm probably preaching to the choir. I just want you to know that at the end of the day your opinion of yourself is all that matters..not anybody elses:cool: