So you meet these people, and things go fairly well.. They are as personable in person as they were during the other conversations online and on the phone.

Guys, you need to be paying attention to your wife/girlfriend.. Is she talking, or quiet.. Remember she is still just as nervous as you are.. Keep the conversation going, and make sure to involve her. Do Not allow her to retreat into a shell..

Girls, here is a different key to watch for, Is your Guy, acting like an idiot.. Being loud? Verging on obnoxious? Reign him in.. and bring him back down to earth. Little boys tend to get over excited when in new territory, same thing applies here regardless of is age..

But lets suppose, everything goes great.. They are Brad and Angelina from the first moment. You are comfortable, and they are too. You make small talk, have a drink maybe. Flirt back and forth. And things are going great.. While it would be great if someone were to pipe up and say, "we think you are sexy, lets go" …

More often than not.. Its like the elephant in the room, no one talks about it, even though they all can see it..

If its Brad and Angelina, it’s a pretty safe bet, Your Mr., is ready and raring to go.. The key is to know if all lights are green from your Mrs..

The best course of action here is to have an idea of where everyone on your team is.. But How do you know? Remember the previous examples

A recent television phenomena, has been on, Called SWINGTOWN.. Where vanilla folks find themselves in a chance moment where exploring is available and jump in..

In the show, and in dozens of stories ( erotic and otherwise), the WOMEN talk in the restroom, and then come back to let the guys know, all lights are green..

Again, have a simple way of getting your positions across, first to each other then to them.. And knowing where you all stand before the question comes up is better than being asked..

“We love you both, what do you say to going somewhere more private..”

The awkward look back and forth, the pressure that is APPLIED when of course HE says “Sure lets go.. “And then it falls on HER to say yea or nay to the rest of the evening of fun..

Ok, here is the sage advice, Remember, the Motto? Prepare for anything, expect nothing.. Guys, prepare for nothing expect anything, and KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT.. And LET HER ANSWER.. Leave it all up to the one person on your team with the sense not to allow the little head lead the big one.. One fact remains a constant in this lifestyle, and You have read it already in the first parts.. The WOMEN make the rules..

Or as Gary Busey said in a 1982 movie, He didn’t understand what women’s problems were, “they have half the money and all the pussy”

If things go great and its not in the cards for the first evening, accept it, because Hey, you weren’t planning on anything tonight anyway, RIGHT? But moreover, ask if they think they would like a second “date” ? Or maybe you think the second date if all agree is time for the fun to begin?

Because you are new to all of this, plan on moving at whatever pace YOU BOTH feel is right.. And explain that to your new friends. They will understand, if they remember what its like being newbies themselves. Some folks cast caution to the wind, and jump in.. Others need to ease in feel comfortable, and build trust.

I am closing this chapter/ part at this point, because the next deals with the next hurdle we ALL face, doesn’t matter if you are NEW or have a dozen years of EXPERIENCE.. Getting naked the first time and getting the party really started.. So the next chapter is Melting the ICE