Now then, the bags packed, she is dressed to kill and you are ready to go, the just in case reservations have been made.. Anything else you need to deal with to go away for the evening has been taken care of, such as a sitter scheduled, days ahead.

You head out the door, and the nerves have grown the butterflies into flying saucers. It might be a good idea to both get on the same page as to what happens If.. If things are ready to go to the next level, or If they aren’t. Make it clear that both of you have a go, no go ruling.. Talk between yourselves, and re enforce the feeling you have for each other, and remember, this is supposed to be fun.

A few days ago, a member of the forum contacted me with the question, his wife was interested in getting started, but was having a time with separating love from sex. And at the time the wet-wear went offline and I didn’t have a decent answer for him.. Well, how is this..

A couple can go out for a evening, and dancing, and either partner can if the other isn’t the jealous type, enjoy dancing with another partner, even slow dancing.. Its just dancing its not like they love the other person but are enjoying the activity..

In the lifestyle we enjoy having sex, for sex sake, some refer to it as sport fucking.. Just like playing a pick up game of ball, or getting friends together to play touch football, pool, or even cards.. it’s a form of having fun..

So, RELAX.. What’s the worst things that happens? The guy lied and is older than dirt.. Or the picture was taken BEFORE he put on 130 lbs.. What happens if you meet and he isn’t who he said he is.. The same as if you met a couple and they weren’t..

If there is no connection if there is no chemistry.. Two choices sit and talk and see how things do actually go.. He might be the greatest guy, just not your or your wife’s idea of perfection.

It happens, and believe it or not, we met a “troll” or two.. And once you got past the BS factors, one actually turn into a great guy, and more importantly.. One hell of a evening..

The other choice is to cut your losses early, explain simply that its not going to work out like you and he had hoped, and go somewhere else for a night out for you both..

You are already packed, have a reservation, go to dinner, back to the hotel, and spend the evening, pleasuring each other, and hell, talk about what the next guy might bring to the table.

Ok, lets suppose on the other hand that, you meet, and instead of Rumplestilskin, he is a great guy. Things go great and its like talking to an old friend. There comes and awkward point where someone needs to ask the question..

Do we wanna go somewhere more private? Ideally, its your female half of the team that speaks up, but chances are the nerves are running too high for that..

Now then lets assume that She is ready to go, You are ready to go, and He is all for it..( of course he is, He is gonna get laid) You make it clear to him to follow but wait, in the parking lot while you get the room keys.

Once you have them, and get into the room.. Now is the last time before things get kicked into high gear to discuss anything, of a intimate or sexual nature before things get started.

How things get started is up to her.. Maybe both of you guys, begin to undress her.. Maybe you sit with her in between you both, and flip on a PPV adult channel. Maybe you all get undressed and just get right to it..

Its all up to her.. How long things last is also a key.. I mean we all have the fantasy about getting naked and getting things going, fucking and sucking all night long.. But lets face it, even under ideal conditions, with 5 bottles of lube, she is still going to get sore. When she says, that’s it.. Sorry folks that’s it.. We went one night, from 8pm, til 4am, one night, but not in a frantic fashion, rather, it was erotic, slow, and FANTASIC.. The room had double beds, us on one him on the other as things slowed.. And she went from one bed to the other, from 1145 to 230.. And then we ended the night like we started, all of us, in one bed..

The last thing is, a point of etiquette, Hopefully YOU ALL had a great time. If he leaves, its acceptable to hear from him the next day, and hopefully not longer than 3 days later..

If you all really had a great time, its also fine for you to get in touch with him and say so as well.

Now, I want to clear up one thing. Starting out with a MFM threesome is a great way to start if the nerves are high, or it’s a fantasy for her , or for you both.. BUT, as you gain more experience, you will probably come around to the frame of mind that, while 3somes are fun, 4somes are even better.

Ok, if you are reading this, then you are already ahead, so the next part/chapter, MELTING the ICE, might prove useful for future pursuits..