Getting Started pt 9c - the first meeting, Another Woman

Ahh Yes, the Unicorns..

Those of us with experience in the lifestyle refer to single women within the lifestyle as just that Unicorns, often talked about, but seldom seen

This will be possibly the shortest entry in the series for one reason, After 13 years of being involved in the lifestyle, we have YET to find one.

So, given the fact that, I can not speak from experience, the best course of action I can give in this instance is to tell you what we would do.

If as with the previous circumstances we were to actually find a single woman, and talk online, build a level of trust and online friendship, we would offer our phone number and ask her to call. This, again is for her trust, as it offers a small level of anonymity, She can block her number form the caller ID with a *67, and call. Which we would offer with the phone number.

If the call went great and things progressed we would offer a evening out, of dinner, and whatever she wanted to do after, and as a point of etiquette, on us.

Because we have experience, it would depend on her experience to determine what happens, and how quickly or slowly, things progress from the dinner stand point.

In getting ready for the evening out, we would over course do exactly as we have counseled in previous parts.. Be prepared for anything expect nothing To that end, we would prepare as if Oh yes, its naked time at some point. She would be smooth ad fresh down there, as would I. We would dress like headed out for a great evening, casual, but, not sloppy.

Our overnight bag would be packed and ready just in case. In it we would have:

Tooth paste

Tooth brushes

Some shampoo

Body Wash or soap

Deodorant

Cologne

Perfume

Condoms

Lubricant

Some fun toys - Vibe maybe a dildo, or strap on..

And at least one or two bottles of douche - Just as a precaution. Other items, a few plastic cups if a drink or two might be needed before the festivities begin.. In our case usually a bottle of Bacardi, but as I would have asked during conversations leading up to tonight, whatever our new friend likes to drink.

Sometimes its an idea to bring a small radio or CD player.. Other items to put in the bag, if you are really planning some candles, tealights and holders.. Helps to set a mood..

Beyond that, having things in place so that IF things work out, a neutral place, comfort zone for both parties, reserved. A Sitter to watch any kiddies (even though ours are almost beyond sitter ages) Cell phone charged and ready to go.

From that point, all things would follow the same path as the one for meeting a couple. Basically a bit of flirting, seeing how the personalities mesh, and if there is a comfortable feeling between the three of us. If you have a definitive idea that regardless of if it works out or not, that you are going to be spending the evening in the Hotel room, It might be an idea to go ahead and get the room key, drop you things there, and again, if you are planning in either case, put your candles out ( DON”T LIGHT THEM!! ) set your cd player/radio up.. Hell, if it has a hot tub Jacuzzi, fill it.. Hot water only, and allow it to cool over your dinner, by the time you get back topping it off to bring it back to temp is easy.

Then close up the room, and head off to your meet. Have a great dinner and see how it goes. Drop the info at some point that you and your SO were planning on the night out anyway. Take the play pressure off her.. If she is ready great.. If not, it can wait.

At some point as Dinner finishes, and the check is being taken care of, I would ask simply where everyone wants to go from there. Posing the question to both ladies.

How and where things go from that point, is all up to them, because as I detailed before..

Guys are usually ready to go, BEFORE dinner.. If all agree, we head somewhere private, great.. If not, that’s fine too, building friendship and trust is doubly important in this circumstance.

Besides, if you are following the Motto, you weren’t planning on anything except between you and your SO, anyway, RIGHT?

Now, lets suppose, She and your wife agree, that heading somewhere to get less dressed is a great idea.. We head off, for an evening in a private place. We get the room we already had reserved, and then comes the awkward time..

The point in time that happens between entering the room, and everyone naked. In this instance, its not up to you, or your SO.. Its up to your guest.. If she is really ready, then this really won’t be an issue. Get a few drinks poured, find a music station or something like it on whatever is in the room.. And see what develops.

Now, in the next chapter, we will discuss a very important topic, suppose everything is set, all systems go, you get to the room .. And everyone FREEZES UP..

That’s why the next topic is called MELTING the ICE