Getting Started - pt 10 - Melting the ICE

Ok, you have your target in your sites.... And suddenly.. You revert to a 12 year old.. playing spin the bottle..

Or the mentality of GOOFY… “ Awww,shucks, Gosh !!”

No Need to FEAR… the INFO IS HERE!!

Its completely normal to be nervous, hell, you are about to engage in activity that, while erotic and fantastic, is usually right out of the fantasies or letters written to PENTHOUSE..

Being nervous, having that tension can be fun, and should be enjoyed. Lets face it the EXCITEMENT, is fun.. But not to the point of impairing you. Relax as you can.. Cause here is the key to all of this..

Its taken well over ten parts but I feel you are ready for the ultimate piece of wisdom when it comes to being a swinging couple, involved in this lifestyle.. Ready?

Its just SEX.. So long as everyone CUMS, And has a good time, its all good..

As a wise person once said, Sex is like PIZZA, even when its bad, its still pretty good..

Even our worst encounter, was still pretty good, because if the sex wasn’t that great, we still had a great time, and sometimes still laugh at what this one or that one did..

So Relax, first off, so long as everyone is there because they want to be there.. Half the battle is already won. Now, in this chapter we are going to cover going from covered to naked, and turned on, motors revving..

MELTING THE ICE

Now, lets suppose, just for the sake of argument, that, the “target package” for tonight’s mission is … Another Couple..

Yes, I keep coming back to that.. But in all honesty, it’s the basis of much of the real fun that most people have within the lifestyle.

Single Guys are great, but, in the end, it’s a MFM threesome, and regardless of how versatile the woman is, She is only one person.. At times, yes, all three are engaged, and other times, one sits on the sidelines, waiting their turn and the other two have fun.

With a Single Woman, Umm.. Unless it’s a chemically enhanced night, a FMF threesome, the guy has to perform double duty.. And lets face it, regardless of WHO he is, unless he is 17, there is still a bit of DOWNTIME, that usually involves some form of other stimuli, or Artificial male organs.

Besides, using the threesome aspect, its more of a case, where, because its usually spurred on by .. Hmm, *AHEM* unbridled passion.

Now, there are a few different ways, to kick off the festivities, and HOW things get started can be just as fun as the main event.

Some are ready to dive right in, others need to be “romanced”, Some are looking to start by allowing the women to “sexplore” each other, then the guys jump in. But some also you will come across might not be into the woman to woman play, or maybe your wife or SO isnt.. Again, go with the flow..

An easy way to break the ice, is to play a bit of Strip poker, or Strip blackjack, So maybe thats something to throw in the overnight bag, a deck of cards.... Another is to find one of a dozen “party” games available online or thru different places from adult toy emporiums to Spencer’s. If that seems a cheesy way to go, Maybe simply pairing off, and soft fondling, Depending on the position that you or they take, kissing leading to slowly undressing each others new playmate.

Some women prefer to be covered, allowing them time to slip into the bathroom and change often pays off when they return, scantily dressed.. Others will prefer the lights out completely.. It all depends on the “comfort zone”

Of all the encounters we have had over the years, we have had dozens of different ways to get the ice broken from walking into the room and literally pairing off and undressing your new friends, to the women diving into the bathroom and coming out in sexy dress, while us guys just got undressed.. We have gotten a room and waited while the Jacuzzi filled. Then all got undressed and got in, sitting close together, hands roaming under the water..

We have had a few situations where things went a bit odd.. From a couple that preferred to start with each other then jump to the new people in mid stream. They put on porn, and then once things got moving, switched off. Another was to having the woman from the other couple lay on the bed, face down, as everyone massaged and rubbed, then we split away into pairs.. We have gone out for a evening and ended up back in a the room having a night cap then everyone just went into the bedroom got undressed and got in the bed..

How you do it, so long as you are comfortable, doesn’t matter. Having an idea and spelling out the ground rules before things get started is usually best.

Melting the ICE, Breaking the ICE.. Getting things moving.. Requires two key elements.. Pushing the nerves aside and going for it.

Take the ideas, use ‘em, or, don’t, come up with your own..

How its done, it doesn’t matter, so long as the ICE melts.

Now, from this point we are going into the advanced territory..

Heading to your first club

Heading to your first House Party

And maybe moving from foursomes to MORESOMES