My work involves the technical orientation of new-hire employees. These employees travel from all over north America to my district office, staying multiple nights at a local hotel. I overheard one of them at lunch time telling some people, "you'll never guess what happened to me last night." He continues, "this man and woman at the hotel lounge are telling me that they had come to town to see the football game on Sunday afternoon. So we began to talk sports and other such things. Then this guy excuses himself saying he would be back in a while and the woman sits down next to me and says, 'my husband likes for me to pick up men at the bar and take them to our hotel room to have sex. He's waiting for us right now.' "

Well, you could have bowled me over with a feather. I recognized the situation immediately, of course. But being in the company of these professional associates I had to somehow put on a face of complete surprise and lack of recognition. My mind was reeling. Should I assume a look of disgust and disdain and pronounce, "That's disgusting." Or should I smile slightly and say, "Isn't that the funniest thing." Whatever my reaction, I can't give it away because what is actually in my mind is, "did you get her name? Did she say she was going to be back tonight. Geez, my wife has always wanted to do something like that."

Being in The Lifestyle is pain. You know things that other people do not and there are very many situaitons where you just cannot say.

~Michael