Maybe you just love the excitment of meeting someone new? The anticipation is always a big turn on for us, even if the meeting doesn't lead anywhere.

Sometimes I think we are too picky/ stuck up because I look at couples like yourselves (and other friends of mine) and it seems like they can click with anyone.

I remember a couple years ago that my ex and I went to dinner with a few times and I felt like I was carrying the conversation for all 4 of us. They ended up meeting this other couple we were friends with and became life-long friends.

If it's working for you, don't worry about it... just enjoy it

Julie, it's tough carrying the whole conversation by yourself. I've never had to do it, but I wouldn't want to either. Jeez, my mind couldn't think that fast.

We really do enjoy it, Thanks.

We've been more successful in meeting people at clubs and parties than "dates". We probably were not as picky as we should have been on the meets that didn't go anywhere.

How much do you do before meeting, emails? chats? Do you always see pictures of the people? Just wondering if that's part of the reason? We've gotten alot pickier as far as appearance, distance, profile topics.

Have to say we're a lot like that... it's rare that we get as far as meeting up that we don't proceed... and it's not just a question of thinking well, we've gone to this much trouble to meet them, we might as well... for some reason we just find it easy to click. In one case we'd never even chatted online, just exchanged a couple of emails.. and a year later, they're still our one of our best friends in swinging.

I was just thinking the other day that we had great success in meeting people. I read many blogs with the issues that people deal with (but then again people tend to write more about negative things). I think some of it is just timing, part of it is meeting people though friends, and part of it is that we are both on the same page with swinging, have no restrictive rules (condoms and we both have to be comfortable/ok with the couple and the situation), easy going, like to talk, hang out, etc.