I was going to post in the forum, but there are so many postings regarding sexual performance/issues and it's not really a question any.

We're a bit new to the lifestyle (3 months) and have played with 6 couples. About 1/2 of the couples we have meet several times, and enjoy their company and all except for 1 of the 6 have been in our age range (late 40s/early 50s). Some of our experiences have resulted in the male half of the other couple not being able to perform to the point of penetration. A variety of factors may be involved, age, lateness of the hours, too many drinks, condom usage. While they have been very attentive, Mrs Exploring really likes penetration as part of the experience. So on numerous occasions that did not happen. I think she has gotten over the "is it her" question, and realizes it's just nature conspiring against her.

We're in our late 40s, in pretty good shape and most don't believe us when we tell them our age. While I can't say I'm at peak performance, I've not had any "getting it up" issues in our experiences with out couples. But I feel like we are stuck in the middle of being too old for younger couples (from a profile perspective, less face to face) and being with people our age where the male half may have performance issues.

While I'm not sure we were at a point in our marriage where we could have done this 10 years ago, I really with we started when we were younger! Perhaps I'll find myself in that performance dilemma at some point and will need to decide how to proceed in swinging, but hoping that is not in the near future.