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The "Bi" Debate
My wife and I have done a great deal of research on the topic of "Bi"-sexuality. We have come up with some interesting information in our quest. However, we have come up with, just as many, questions after discovering our findings.
First, we must remember that regarding the lifestyle, the majority of people are concerned with the physical side of being "Bi". In all of our reading on the blogs, forums and profiles, we have yet to discover the topic of "Emotional Bi-sexuality". Thereby the individual is emotionally attracted to both sexes equally.
Now that that is out of the way, let us cover a few issues we have discovered with the naming convention.
There are simply not enough options offered by ANY lifestyle web site to enable all individuals to be happy with their choice. Most offer the top three, Bi, Bi-curious or straight.
There are several other options that could be offered to enlighten and locate like minded individuals.
Bi-comfy (Does not need it but enjoys it when it happens)
Bi-Tolerant (Is not turned off by it but is not willing to return the favor)
Bi-Situational (When the individual is in the mood to engage in Bi-sexual unions, they do. It is entirely situational)
Bi-Individual (This person does not plan on having same sex encounters with anyone but a specific individual)
Bi-exhibitionist (This individual generally is not into the acts of Bi-sexuality but as it pleases their partner they engage in the activity)
We are more than certain that there are as many different terms as there are people. Each person has their own way of looking at Bi-sexuality.
One question we have asked, and received many, many different answers upon, is why is Bi-curious so common? There are many profiles that have listed the individual as Bi-curious for a very long time.
Our question regarding this is, if you have been engaged in same sex activities multiple times, why are you then still curious? Didn't the 3rd, 4th or 5th trip down that road enlighten you to your Bi nature?
One reply we always get to this question is that if you list yourself as Bi, some women who are Bi will expect you to play with them as well. Our argument against that is that, you wouldnot have sex with every man. Who should expect that you have sex with every woman. It should not matter what your sexual orientation is. You get to choose who, when and IF you have sex.
We discovered a site a while back that has a little test that the individual can take to see where they land in the sexual range of society.
http://drrobertepstein.com/esoi/take/
It is simplistic in many ways yet sheds some light on the matter for most individuals. We suggest you take a look and see where you fall. It is not at all iron clad. Like all tests, it is entirely subjective and based upon the individual taking it. Be honest and try it out. You may surprise yourself.
The lifestyle has also helped change the face of bi-sexuality. It was not that long ago when women did not have much to do with each other durring the sexual encounters. As society has become more tolerant as a whole, so to has the lifestyle.
So, what is this Blog really about? I guess you could say, we are always looking for more information on why people pick Bi-"This" over Bi-"That". It is one of those bees in our bonnets that just will not fly away.
Thanks for reading.
Mr. and Mrs. CXXC
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