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I Know Something You Don't Know!

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Mrs. CXXC and I have only been in the lifestyle a short time (1.5 years). Within this period, we have come to discover so many wonderful things about each other and our relationship. The most amazing discoveries are ones that have absolutely nothing to do with sex.

 

We look at life with a different set of eyes now. Where we would normally see some fun and a different situation, we now come face to face with great joy and adventures in every day life.

 

Something about the lifestyle has changed our specific view on the world within and without. It is our understanding that, as we walk, together, through each day, we come to know and understand more of what and who each other are.

 

Open and honest communication is the key. We were once happy to move about in our life, as a married couple, with little thought of sharing our inner self. We figured the other knew simply by being around enough and observing.

 

In this last three years, (That is how long we have been communicating openly) we have discovered so many interesting and thought provoking areas of each other. When entering a situation that had become common place in our lives, we now look to them as completely different as we are now seeing them through each others eyes and view point. Add our own thoughts and feelings to the mix and we start to get excited about the simplest things. Even grocery shopping has become more than just tolerable. Well, perhaps it is just the vegetable section.

 

We speak as often as possible about this situation or that scenario in an attempt to figure out what we do or do not like about them. We share our thoughts and feelings in ways never imagined by us before. It makes the mundane seem new and the new feel more exciting. Remember, we are no longer looking at life through old and experienced eyes. We are looking at it as a connected couple.

 

As for sex, we feel we have a leg up on the vanilla world. Imagine, if you will, the dinner table of your vanilla friends home. The couple discuss’ house and home, work and family with little or no passion. It is nothing new. They do this by rote. But what are they really thinking?

 

When she bends over to get veggies from the crisper, do you think he will voice his desire to just rip her clothes off and take her right then and there? I kind of doubt it.

 

When he is dressed sharply for a specific event, do you think she would voice her fantasy of tearing one off in the bathroom of the event? I don’t think so either.

 

The lifestyle has opened lines of communication between us that enable us to express our sexual thoughts, feelings, desires and fantasies freely. “Thought” expressions bring out the "Sexy Beast" in us and enable us to do things we would NEVER have imagined doing in a vanilla existence.

 

Do you think my wife would EVER flash her breasts at me while walking from the ocean to our beach chairs at our local beach before? HA HA HA!! Not on a bet.

 

Do you think I would have ever had the courage to point out a woman in the crowd and tell my wife that I found her attractive? More over, do you think my wife would ever have agreed with me before? You can always hear us laugh in that situation. Both of us checking out the ladies. What a blast. Makes the mall tolerable!

 

Just how many times do you look at a couple sitting in a restaurant and barely speaking to one another? Is the love gone? NO! It is there, but little excites them.

 

When you look at a couple, who are in the lifestyle, you often think they are newly married. Why? They talk, they hold hands, they are engaged in whatever activity they happen to be doing and they do it together.

 

As Mrs. CXXC and I walk through the store or at the park or just down our quiet street, we see other couples doing the very same thing. However, there is something missing in them. There is no spark in their eye. They are just doing what they always do, thinking thoughts that will go no further than their own minds.

 

It is in these times you will hear my wife's chipper voice chant, "I know something you don’t know!" As she skips along holding my hand searching for our next adventure!

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You guys are so sweet and happy... are you sure you haven't been inhaling nitrous oxide? Just kidding. So exuberant. It is uplifting just to read your stuff. Thank you.

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Ms. Fuse

Our life together is filled with wonder and awe at every turn. Have we always been like this? No. Like every marriage, we have had our ups and downs. However, when faced together, the world’s issues are not as big. In fact, it was just before we entered the lifestyle that our lives were not so happy. We fought for each other. We communicated. We formed solid ground beneath ourselves. Then, only after feeling we had the secure relationship we needed, we took the steps toward the lifestyle.

In truth, I count every moment as a gift. Why wouldn't I? I have Mrs. CXXC. I don't mean to sound like a greeting card here. I just know that I am VERY lucky!

She feels the very same way. So, when you have two people who feel they are VERY blessed to have each other, the world is a brighter place.

Thank you for the kind words.

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Dude, don't ever lose that feeling. You're 100% right on when you say that you're lucky. Most couples forget that the person they're married to is the same person they couldn't wait to see when they were just dating. You remember - you'd turn down an event with your buddies to be with her. You'd stare at the clock, hoping that quitting time would hurry up and get here so you could go meet her. You'd tell her things your friends would bust your balls for the rest of your life over if they thought you even knew those words. Well, what happened? Complacency. We get used to her always being there with us, and we forget those thoughts, feelings, and emotions we once had - oh they're still there - it's just the freshness has worn off, and real life has taken their place. No, marriage will never be an endless string of Hallmark moments - but if we work to remember that we chose the one we're married to over others, and the reasons we chose that person, the spark never has to die. In some cases, much like yours and ours, it intensifies.

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My thoughts exactly...hubby and I have talked about how we feel more open now in soooo many other areas..not just the bedroom. I love this post and I am going to show it to him to read when he gets back. Thanks for putting this into words!

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Mr. kLin

You are so right. We could not get enough of our mates when we started dating. Time passes and the novelty wears off. We go from the Kodak moments to the prozac moments. However, sometimes, there happes to be a spark that reminds us how much we really love this person. I am fortunate enough to have found it and know how to keep the little flame burning. Some times it becomes an ember but by and large, I do everything I can to keep that flame going. I am very fortunate. I still cant wait till she gets home from work or I come home from my trips. It is so much like dating all over again.

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MrKlin, I think that's what has been the biggest benefit of entering swinging. We opened up to each other more than we ever had, and are even more in love than ever.

 

When he sends me a text, my face just lights up. Even just the simplest "I love you".

 

CXXC - what an awesome place to be in your marriage, and yes, we all get complacent sometimes. But how refreshing to still have butterflies when your better half is on their way home. We are working very hard to keep it that way, and I hope you continue to do the same!

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We enjoy the magic too, and I wonder if "swinging" is the only way to the hillcrest of bliss...

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socolais

We don't believe that the lifestyle is the only way to experience these feelings. In fact, we have always felt like this. The Lifestyle is simply and amplifier of these feelings. We are more than certain that there are other activities that would bring these emotions and feelings out just as strongly. As long as a couple does them together, that closeness and involvement will prepetuate it.

 

NCfun

Mrs. CXXC and I are two very dinamic personalities. So, when we are at any social gathering as a coupl;e, we generally split the room and move about individually. If we stood together and converesed wiht each person as a couple, we would cancel each other out. That being said, when I look across the room and locate her, my heart always skips a beat. When she looks at me from the distance, I feel warm all over. She just does it for me.

Again, I really dont want to sound like a hallmark card. I just feel so very happy and lucky.

Unlike most, I am blessed with a sunrise twice each day:

When the orb breaks the horrizon each morning and when she opens her eyes and greets me with that loving smile.

HAppy Boy!!!!

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