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Evolution....Finding your place...

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Ted and I are doing our favorite pastime at the moment...lying in bed naked and talking...the topic today is how people (mainly ourselves) evolve in swinging.

 

We've been involved in swinging now for quite a few years ...we've been places, seen things and done things that would cause others to consider us hardcore...yeah, we probably are but that's fine with us.

 

Through our travels and adventures in the swinging world we have discovered things about ourselves and each other...we are at the point that we know what we like and what we don't.

 

There are things that at one time seemed wild to us which are now things that we enjoy and seek out in our adventures. The first time we found ourselves in a room with 17 people naked and fucking seemed wild...our thoughts at that time were "This is cool" "Can you believe we are watching this?"....Now things like that wouldn't cause us to even blink an eye.

 

Are we jaded? No, yes, maybe? We still get excited about going out and meeting people but certain things do not hold the same excitement level that they once did...we do still enjoy them though.

 

What we found for ourselves is that we have two different levels...we have those friends that we we've become close with over the years that we still GREATLY enjoy partying with...going to socials, clubs, events, discussing swinging issues with, dinners out, even family time...just spending good quality time with and on occasion playing with them.

 

Then, we have our KINKY friends...these are the people we have our hardcore playing with. They're people who enjoy the exact same things that Ted and I do when it comes to sex. We rarely socialize with this set of friends...when we're together it's for the sex...we have a short time before playing that we usually get caught up on each other's lives, then it's down to the nitty-gritty.

 

Sound weird? Maybe, but it works for us. We want those friends we can socialize and party with, that we are free to be ourselves with. If we have sex with them great, if not great. We also want those friends that we can call up and say..."We're horny, lets fuck" and them be right on board with us.

 

Some people think they have to choose between the two worlds...friends or just those people you fuck...you can have both...you can fit into both worlds.

 

We've found our place in swinging and we are happy...will it evolve again into something different? Maybe, maybe not.

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Exactly what we have been thinking and what I was saying when i said that we want playmates and friends but don't expect to find them both in the same people.

 

I think in my first marriage we were pretty hardcore as well and I tried to deny it and claim the whole friends first mentality. It was like this dual existance. We would easily go out and party at a party, but when it came to meeting people online we wanted to do the friends first thing (and the truth is the ones we met from online we never ended up wanting to be either with).

 

P is much more laid back that S was, so I think it will be easier for us to just go with the flow. We want friends and we want to play, however those come along we will be fine.

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Exactly what we did. We never really got in a hurry and just took things as they came.

 

By doing so we were able to make those really good quality friends and able to find those that fit us for having sex.

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I agree with your point that you can have friends and still fuck them. I've learned for myself that it's more enjoyable when you have those fuckable friends, actually.

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Mrs. CXXC and I have somewhat of a hybrid relationship going on. We have a couple with whom we have become friends but everytime we are together, clothes are off and the activities are going on just moments after the greeting.

 

Why is this a hybrid? These people are what we also concider friends. We dont see each other daily but we chat, E-mail, phone, text and generally keep in touch on a daily basis. These are two people with whom we discuss life, fluff, stuff and fuck till the cows come home.

 

Like Julie, we have situations where we have met others on line but rarely play. there are those who live in our town with whom we have played but do not necessarily see very often inspite of keeping in touch.

 

fuck-buddies or friends with bennies....Why limit yourself to either? We live by the motto of, "Eat, Drink and fuck Mary! for tomorrow we may Die!"

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