Ted and I are doing our favorite pastime at the moment...lying in bed naked and talking...the topic today is how people (mainly ourselves) evolve in swinging.

We've been involved in swinging now for quite a few years ...we've been places, seen things and done things that would cause others to consider us hardcore...yeah, we probably are but that's fine with us.

Through our travels and adventures in the swinging world we have discovered things about ourselves and each other...we are at the point that we know what we like and what we don't.

There are things that at one time seemed wild to us which are now things that we enjoy and seek out in our adventures. The first time we found ourselves in a room with 17 people naked and fucking seemed wild...our thoughts at that time were "This is cool" "Can you believe we are watching this?"....Now things like that wouldn't cause us to even blink an eye.

Are we jaded? No, yes, maybe? We still get excited about going out and meeting people but certain things do not hold the same excitement level that they once did...we do still enjoy them though.

What we found for ourselves is that we have two different levels...we have those friends that we we've become close with over the years that we still GREATLY enjoy partying with...going to socials, clubs, events, discussing swinging issues with, dinners out, even family time...just spending good quality time with and on occasion playing with them.

Then, we have our KINKY friends...these are the people we have our hardcore playing with. They're people who enjoy the exact same things that Ted and I do when it comes to sex. We rarely socialize with this set of friends...when we're together it's for the sex...we have a short time before playing that we usually get caught up on each other's lives, then it's down to the nitty-gritty.

Sound weird? Maybe, but it works for us. We want those friends we can socialize and party with, that we are free to be ourselves with. If we have sex with them great, if not great. We also want those friends that we can call up and say..."We're horny, lets fuck" and them be right on board with us.

Some people think they have to choose between the two worlds...friends or just those people you fuck...you can have both...you can fit into both worlds.

We've found our place in swinging and we are happy...will it evolve again into something different? Maybe, maybe not.