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Mrs. CXXC and I were looking over our schedule for the next 6 months and came to a frightening revelation. Once we come back from our vacation in early August, we are SCREWED! Actually, we are NOT getting screwed to be honest. You see, once we return from vacation, our schedules are going to be diametrically opposed. She will be working the 16 hour six day week (one 24 hour shift every other weekend) and I will be up to my normal travels. In short, we will be lucky to see each other in passing much less actually spending time together.

 

We find ourselves at a cross roads of sorts. We know that we will have no more than one day (Some times less than 12 hours) a week in which to be together to connect physically and emotionally. The issue with having only one day is that, due to her schedule, her attention will be drawn to other areas as well. As it is my first priority to please Mrs. CXXC, I enable and promote her in her pursuits. I encourage her to do the things that make her happiest. It is when she is happy and fulfilled that she shines as brilliantly as the sun. That alone is reward enough for my efforts.

 

The cross roads that I spoke of pertains to the Lifestyle. You see, we discussed our schedule with the lifestyle as the main focus. This was actually the third conversation we had about our life and this schedule. Family, friends, activities, responsibilities and our vanilla social life all come before the lifestyle! This is a hobby for us, if you will. Yes, it is one heck of a fun, passionate and erotic hobby, but a hobby just the same. Therefore, as we move closer to the days of not being able to see each other, we become more selfish with our time together. The lifestyle is the first thing to go.

 

In our conversations we also came to a realization that we cannot simply cut ourselves out of the fun. We cannot fathom cutting out those with whom we have actively engaged in passions dance. We have discovered some truly wonderful people within the Lifestyle. Some of these new “Friends” are dearer to us than their Vanilla counterparts. We would be remiss to discount the relationships we have fostered over our 2 year history within the lifestyle.

 

Mrs. CXXC and I were sitting in the hot tub the other day, working on plans for the next 6 moths. We have her complete schedule printed out. We scour every date, weekend and holiday looking for any opportunity to enjoy each other. Within that very thought follows the desire to spend some time in our pursuits and with friends (Vanilla/Lifestyle) and family members. As our family members are all in the mid-Atlantic region, the onus falls to us to make the trips north (TRUST ME! WE PREFER THIS!). Most of the Lifestyle friends we have live 2 hours away or more. Again, when one makes a plan, it is adhered to. Our pursuits are followed at our leisure and availability. Mrs. CXXC actually has more hobbies than I do so we generally do what she is interested in at the time.

 

This is starting to sound like the old adage: Stuffing 20 pounds of potatoes into a 5 pound bag!

 

We have no intention of leaving the lifestyle completely. In fact, we both plan to continue with our solo play. She will have her boy-toys as I will have my female friends. We fully intend upon having our Lifestyle friends visit us (or we visit them) at every available opportunity for simple socialization and/or some fun play time. However, at this time, with all the Lifestyle friends that we have and our solo playmates, our dance cards seem to be full!

 

I guess you could say that we at Not Accepting New Applications at this time.

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I feel your pain...all too well :(

 

Ted is only home about eight days a month (if we're lucky), four of which are travel days of him coming in and leaving out so, basically four full days a month with each other.

 

Throw in the fact he wants and needs to spend time with the kids and grandkids, the honey-do list that I just can't take care of myself and us wanting and needing reconnect time with each other (not to mention sleep as neither of us sleep well when we're separated)...there is very little time left over for anything else, especially playing.

 

Due to our limited time we have become experts at quality over quantity. As I told some of the bunch this past weekend in Gatlinburg...we make the most of our time together and don't worry about the rest. As strange as it might sound, swinging (and spending time with swinger friends) is quality time for us. It's the one time we can truly relax and just be ourselves.

 

Swinging is on the back burner for us but we're lucky enough that we've made those friends who understand and are willing to be there when we can move it to the front burner...which we do every chance we get :)

 

Our schedules suck right now but we know it won't be forever. Until the time they align better, we'll continue to make the best of what we've got.

 

 

T.

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We have spent the last 2 years trying to cultivate that kind of friendship with other lifestyle couples. Unfortunately, the closest couples to fit that catagory are all 2+ hours away!

 

Each day we spend apart is often the longest. I really miss her and she me when I have to travel or her work makes her stay 16++ hours.

 

When we are able to be together, we suck the marrow out of each moment.

 

Good luck to you two! It is so very worth it when you are together. At least, that is how we feel!

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