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Tweener
As we are debating looking for new couples or continuing our retirement from new couples, my wifes main 'con' to the whole process is the search.
I've always considered us a tweener couple, well, outside of one period where we both let ourselves go. By tweener being we are on the attractive side of the equation but not on the 'oh they are hot' side of the equation.
One thing I am with both of us is brutally honest. I know my faults, I know my wifes, and I don't look at us as anything special.
We are not fat, but we could both stand to lose 10lbs.
We have good faces, but they won't launch a 1000 ships.
Mrs. Chicup can turn a head or two, I am decidedly “ok”.
We stay in good shape because we want to be attractive for each other, its what WE like, and while we have had our ups and downs, over all its been pretty steady. Added we never smoked, rarely drink, and have used sunblock since our early 20's whenever we are going to be out, we are a bit more youthful looking than our ages would indicate.
As we rapidly approach 40, I've noticed a shift in couples attractiveness from when we were in the younger age group.
People let themselves go more, and while being secure in your looks and status is great, this is swinging not a average neighborhood party. We keep in shape for ourselves and for each other, its what we are attracted to, and as such we look for couples in our age range who we would be attracted to based on similar criteria.
The problem I've noticed is that there seems to be an odd thing I've noticed with swingers in our strike zone. They seem the least likely to play with anyone. You have the, for lack of a politically correct term, fat and happy swingers, who play with anyone and have a great time (and I'm honestly jealous). You also have the ken and barbies, the pretty people, the whatever epitaph gets thrown at them types. They are not interested in us, which I can understand. But then the swingers in our group, the mostly in shape, mostly attractive mostly middle aged couples. It seems that many of them think they are in the ken and barbie camp, looking for swingers more attractive than they are only. I can't tell if they are just wishful thinking, or waiting for that fantasy couple, or just honestly THINK they are that attractive.
I'd like to think we are honest in our attractiveness and desirability, but maybe we are making the same mistake too
Has anyone else noticed this?
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