I think the magic of swinging is "genuine generosity", where we look for meaningful opportunities to compromise with each other.

We see other couples quibbling over trivial stuff and feel a little pity for them. Not in a condescending way, but in a way that we would like to be able to help them recover from the loss of that lovin feelin. Ohhhhh, that lovin feelin! Step back from the problems at hand and find the happy path between your differences.

I guess the willingness to compromise comes easier to some folks than it does to others. Perhaps, it's the willingness to compromise that actually defines a successful marriage. You give a little, you get a little, and everybody smiles.

Remember the generosity you shared on your honeymoon. Remember how good that felt. Generosity can grow or diminish over the years and we control it by a simple wish. Do we wish to be generous with each other?

Sexual generosity leads us to explore each other's fantasies. For some, that leads to sharing our sexuality with other couples - simply because it's a fun thing to do. Every couple defines what they're willing to share with others and what gets withheld. Sharing with others works better when we're all at about the same level of generosity because it takes generosity and a willingness toward playful compromise to have a good time. Mismatches in generosity or the perceptions of generosity lead to somebody feeling hurt.

Generously sharing our sexuality with others is fun. But it's a whole lot more fun when it's just the two of us tangled in each other's arms and legs like snakes breeding in a wad. And damn!! she's a good kisser too. I think I'm the happiest man in the world.

I read a lot of, "he wants this and she wants that" in the forum posts. At what level did the generosity break down? Other folks are looking for a particular situation. We go to a party where we're contributing to the entertainment of others in a way that we also enjoy. A fog of sexual generosity fills the air.

Is "generosity" a common trait of successful swingers?