I joined here last month with questions and got a ton of great feedback. Thanks to everyone who took the time to respond. Writing to me is very therapeutic so I thought I would just start a blog to sort through what is going on in my mind and to share my experiences into this new lifestyle. Maybe someone new just starting here can relate to what I'll be writing....and any others who have comments or anything valuable they might want to add please feel free to share!

Last month my husband and I went out of town so we thought it would be the perfect chance to have our first encounter. We found a couple through craigslist and met for drinks. They weren't at all what we expected and confirmed to us the importance of more detailed pics....but after talking and joking around we felt like we all clicked and went and got a hotel room.

It was my first experience with a woman. I had no idea what to expect and thought I would be turned on way more than I was. I wasn't really physically attracted to her at all...so I will try again with someone else in the future. Or maybe I am not into what I thought I was.

We tried our best to do every position imaginable for the 4 of us...it was incredibly hot and fun. We lasted for hours...taking a break to hang out and talk and then start right back up again.

I was surprised that I didn't have any of the emotions I thought I would have through the whole experience. I thought I would feel jealous of seeing my husband with another woman even though it was something that turned me on...I thought I would be jealous of that. I also thought I'd be nervous & scared and ended up being the one most aggressive and engaging. Who knew? Guess you have to just do it to figure it out!

I discovered the best part of the whole experience was the next morning when my husband and I were in our hotel room and had sex again and again for the next few days. Sex together seemed more intense, sensual, explosive & new. It's something we look forward to doing again.

We tried last weekend to hook up with a couple only to have them flake out.... now in the works of trying for something this weekend....

I am hoping we can eventually find 3-5 couples that we "click" with and then can just meet with them all from time to time. I dislike AFF and going through winks, spanks and e-mails back and forth....I don't want to spend my time online looking for a get together...I just want to slowly incorporate this new lifestyle as having new friends and having fun from time to time....

It's fun...scary...exciting...& adventurous all together.....