I'm sure you will find that most people won't consider it a factor. If the burns are on your legs they will not be too obvious in most situations, especially if you wear leggings or stockings (I assume you are the female half of the couple). When you get to the point where clothes come off, you can just say something to prepare new people.

Meanwhile, congratulations on your recovery.

Yeah, don't be too concerned about it. Most of us show visible evidence of having lived a life on this planet. There may be some folks that choose to not play, but keep your head screwed on straight and you should see plenty of action. We are not walking collections of perfect and imperfect body parts, and how we think about ourselves is probably more significant in the way others interact with us.

it would not bother me (guy half), but can understand that you would be worried about it.

Like the others, I'm glad to read that you are healing. Now a story. Within our circle of lifestyle acquaintances are a man who survived an explosion in a port-a-pottie at a coal mine and a man having lost a leg. Both seem to get along well at swingers' socials. I asked the port-a-pottie guy if he thought anybody was ever put off. He said, yes some, but quickly added most not.

Phew...thank you for the feedback. I mean, normally I just take the attitude of "I'm not going to be everyone's cup of tea...they won't like brunettes, chubby girls, my height, or they just won't be attracted for whatever reason"....but I guess where hair/eye color/weight can generally be changed, something like this just can't.

I mean, I know the name of the swinging game is generally attraction...thanks for helping me see it's just going to be another part of me from now on...another one of those take it or leave it kind of things to add to the list. lol I guess it just helped me feel better to get it out a bit.

I'm always chiming in late, but the others are right. I posted a question years ago about playing with others that have many surgical scars. It didn't bother us that she had scars, but she was so self conscious about it, we felt she kinda held back the whole night.

I believe that Dave wouldn't have even noticed the scars but she was the one that kept bringing them up. She was a great person with a good personality, which in itself, erased a lot of her self-conscious negatives. I know it bugged her, but really, it bugged her more than us.

We're so sorry this happened to you, but are glad you're recovering rapidly.

Nah, don't think the scar would be an issue. A lot of wives (mine included) have a C-section scar. I'm recovering form having a plate put in my neck 2 months ago and have scar across my throat like Jack the Ripper visited. C'est la vie. Played for the first time since a few weeks ago and all was well. Part of who I am now

We have had friends wiht C-section scars, boob job scars, plastic reconstruction scars near the belly button, etc. WE don't mind them at all, and at times can find them exciting.

Just catching up a little this morning, Sexcupid, and I sure am glad to hear of your excellent attitude in the healing process. So sorry to hear of such a painful accident for you this morning. OUCH !!!

Would something like scars deter me, from playing with someone?

No, not really.

In fact, I would probably inquire..... Maybe even compare scars, with some .

I think if anything, being a scarred person myself, its important you realize its not about how they feel, about your scarred appearance. Its will show how you feel. And can be a good ice breaker also.

I think you'll see what I mean after you heal more.... One of the things I personally have is the reaction to pull away from partners, if they touch a sensitive area. It can be missunderstood....

Its somewhere between self protection and the screeching sound of nails on a chalkboard (amplified) if the area is touched, however lightly.

I truly do hope you heal well, with little scarring.