We spend a lifetime exploring our sexuality. We each blaze our own path through the wilderness of human experiences searching for opportunities we value. There are way too many distractions with religion and societal morality as well as internalized morality directing us to avoid certain opportunities. What is the true guiding force? One that is without a manipulative agenda.

What do I like about house parties? There's an excitement and levity of the party atmosphere. There's an openness and acceptance and even a celebration of our human sexuality. I can bond with my wife at the breakfast nook while the party is going on, and no one feels uncomfortable about it. Some folks see us and just smile, knowing and getting pleasure from our overt pursuit of pleasure. Some folks watch for a little longer, getting obvious pleasure from the show. My wife and I enjoy being able to bond in an environment that celebrates the pleasure of sexual euphoria. Our bonding may be punctuated with kisses and gropes from friends as they make their way to the kitchen to freshen their drink. One of us may spot someone we're sexually interested in. We know we'll have the blessings of each other to pursue that opportunity in whatever way it happens to go. Sometimes the sex with others is fun but empty, while other times it may invoke a warm glow of satisfaction. Either way, it recharges that oh, so delicious lust we have for each other. It's an emotionally healthy place to be.

At what point is open sexuality acceptable? Why do we feel uncomfortable bonding in the presence of "vanillas". Newlyweds seem to be able to get away with more than us pervy old bastards. It's detrimental to the health of our marriage to stifle our bonding in the presence of adult friends and relatives. We act like newlyweds when were alone. We touch and kiss a hundred times a day. We say, "I love you." because it never gets old hearing it. If everyone felt comfortable bonding and enjoying the bonding behaviors of others, the world might be a better place.

There are other couples like us at the party - madly in love with each other and excited about the opportunity to mutually bond. That's not some paraphilic sexual deviance, that's fairy-tale sexuality in the flesh. No one is using each other in a parasitic way. There's a synergy in our sexual interaction where everyone benefits well above their costs. We're motivated to give as much fun as we get. Sexual saity is not a scarce commodity. All interactions are governed by mutual respect and the Golden Rule - non-compliant behavior is grounds for expulsion.

It's rewarding to have a marriage so strong that we can be excited and encourage each other to share our sexuality with others. I do not fear that she will loose her love for me and I enjoy doing what I can to keep those thoughts foreign.