We always felt that what you are looking at (profiles) are just a small piece of who they are.

There is no way you can know if you are compatible (sexualy) without meeting them in person.

Using profiles to meet people, is the most work .

But its fun, if not amusing

Oh, I understand that a profile is just a small piece of the puzzle, but if the profile says specific things that don't match our tastes we're not going to pursue that couple.

I typically use profiles that are associated to events we are attending to find people we might like to meet. This means weeding out the ones that definitely are not a match.

I just get frustrated sometimes, when I find a couple we find attractive and read the profile and find some aspect that makes us not a match. Like specifics around girl-girl play when my wife is bi-curious at best!

Getting all four people to match up is a bitch, isn't it? Profiles, I agree, is a small part of who they are. While some profiles are straight up, some aren't and it requires a bit of digging to find out what they're really after.

We usually look at profiles from people in our group that are attending whatever party to see if we'd like to meet them. We never weed though. Sometimes people don't change their profile while they've changed their minds on a few things like playing alone, or girl/girl stuff not being mandatory, etc... We never count anyone out until we've met and mutually decide they're just not a match.

Still, I feel your pain. Or at least, we feel your pain. Hang in there, tho.

LFM2 You raise a good point about people change in real life but the profile doesn't (heck just look at the age and pictures sometimes that seem stuck in history, lol). I do ask regarding profile differences when contacted. A recent contact discussed alot of f-f play but that's not for my wife. I emailed back and said perhaps we're not a match but they said that's fine it's not a requirement (though the profile did seem to focus on that).

And hey, no pain no gain!