On New Year's Eve I logged on to Swinglifestyles and joined the chat (lobby).

I know sometimes Im too forward....but Im getting better as I go. But keep in mind my reasoning. Im a woman who knows what she wants and has a honored husband who wishes to help in every sort of way.

We decided to do the hook up now thing. I typed while he leaned over my shoulder. So he is my witness. I asked the guy straight up: R U black? He responded: Yes. From there we went to private messenger to photo sharing.......Agreed to meet up outside of a local bar....a drink or two and then if everyone was good to go.....hotel. Anyway to make it short to my disappontment he was just as white as me! Boy! Like I wouldnt notice? WTF? People (single men get the bad rep here:() will lie about their race to get some booty. So after my time wasted and him going thru the trouble to send us fake pics......We politely told him he just wasnt what we wanted and that he knew that. So we got to experience some of the things we had been warned of first hand. It's funny now, it wasn't then. Oh and by the way he was wearing work coverals....top to bottom....I would not expect someone to go in the bar with me in some coverals......OMG. Lesson Learned: Fine line in between being too forward and them assuming you are desperate. Swinger's have standards.