Hey sexycouple! I completely agree. My wife and I do not necessarily debrief about conversations everyday but we are very open to the point of "mrs. new and I had some racy chats today, you should look at them when you get the chance."

If something comes up that I know is out of our "norm" then that is definitely talked about and vice versa. We also remember to remind ourselves that while swinging is a lot of fun, we are what is most important first and foremost.

I enjoyed reading this.

We don't archive chats, but are open about who we talk to and what we talked about. For the most part my chats are with swing friends (women) about alot of things, anything significant happening, what they are up to for the weekend, our last encounter or party, when we might get together again, etc.

Absolutely transparency is good! Now, first off, my wife and I have not swung, we haven't even managed to get to the voyuer / exhibitionist stuff yet. BUT, since we've discussed swinging, we've opened up a great deal more with each other.

The times where one of us has not been open with the other (so far mostly me, being stoopid,) has led to nothing but misery for us both.

We have a joint e-mail account, set up on both our PCs, for any swing related e-mails (such as subscription notices from here, e-mails from the club we've gone to,) and we share an account here (even though I'm more the forum fiend)

Yeah I Have been stupid myself these first three months of this swinging thing but Ive learned alot. I have also found that I feel closer to my wife than I ever have in these last three months. I feel I can talk to her about anything now regarding other woman. She has always been my best friend now its just seems even better with her.