A couple of months ago I wrote about Taking a Few Steps Away from the Lifestyle. I'd decided, basically, not to try so hard, and also to back off on certain situations that were causing the two of us to feel a strain. So, naturally, since I'm not trying, now is the time our social life within the lifestyle has taken off on its own. Between a few really fun house parties, couples who have made the first move online or in person, and serendipity, we have been very active and have had several really fun times recently, all with very little effort. At social gatherings and parties, I have come to accept that I should just basically hold back a bit more than I would like. I don't kiss as much at M&G's. At parties, I hold back until Mr. Fuse has found his fun before doing so myself.

We're still seeing one couple we made friends with last fall. We've been with them maybe six times, and we really like them both as people and as playmates. I think about him a lot. Their schedule is difficult, but we'll take what we can get and never mind the rest. We saw them a week ago at a house party. We all told each other that when the others are around, there's really no one else who can hold our attention. That happened in each combination independently. Very cool. We really hope to keep seeing them for a while. I would like it a lot better if I knew when the next time I could look forward to that would be. But pressing people to make plans is never a good idea.

We had a nice one-nighter a few weeks ago with a couple from out of town. Not the greatest thing ever, but fun, and good people. We've had a couple of other dinner dates with couples who are perfectly good company, and attractive, but who just didn't really excite me enough to take it to the next level. Mr. Fuse likes the female halves but not enough to be disappointed.

But the new and exciting development is that in the last few weeks, we had a dreamy couple contact us online, court us via text, email and a couple of telephone calls. Last Friday night we met, hit it off, played to an astonishing level of pleasure for a first date, and made another date for next Saturday night.

We are not ones to do a lot of texting, but heck, their attention was flattering even if they (mostly she) were a little high maintenance. And I figure if that helps them build their anticipation, so much the better. Plus, Mr. Fuse discovered he is *really* good at flirting via text. As long as he has a few minutes to think about what to say back, he comes up with some really good shit! I told him I would be thrilled to get messages like the ones he was sending. I think it is probably helping his confidence in general.

This couple is new in town and won't be here long, unfortunately. But when I looked at our email and saw their first message and their profile, I was so flattered that it didn't matter. Again, with people who excite us, we'll take what we can get and not be greedy. They value brains and wit along with the physical attraction. They like that we are both nerds with advanced nerd papers. They are a very attractive couple (who have the potential of making our other friends feel insecure, I'm afraid). Both blonde and wholesome looking, she has one of those lithe but curvy bodies with perky little upturned breasts that my husband goes gaga over. He is a tall, hunky, prototypical bodybuilder type with an All-American look. He carried me up a flight of stairs to the bedroom without breaking a sweat, and I am not a small woman.

Mr. Fuse and Mrs. P got along famously. She is really into him and he is equally into her. She is assertive and sensual, which is perfect for him. So is her husband. I expected to enjoy being with him, but this was pretty mind-blowing. We went for a lot longer than I normally would have enjoyed, because neither of us wanted to stop.

What makes this match even better is that it's one of the rare times when I'm hugely attracted to both halves of the couple. Thank goodness for that, because she is the "bi-furious" type who made it clear that she took the "bi-curious" in my profile as her personal challenge. Not really good manners, eh? But they are relatively new to the lifestyle and they have got so many things entirely perfect in our opinion, that I didn't feel the need to criticize her. Plus, I really wanted to have sex with her. Maybe sometime soon when we see them, I might say something to warn her off of any implied pressure to others in the future.

It is so intoxicating to be attracted to another woman, to kiss and touch, to go down on her and not be able to get the sight of her pussy out of my mind. Now I want more! And both of the guys acted perfectly, letting us have some time together before joining in. It was hard to tear my attention away from either of them to give it to the other. And I know Mr. Fuse is happy to see me with another woman and really enjoying it. He is a typical guy in that regard. Unlike other couples, I am more excited about being in the same room with these two, because of the real group possibilities. Last Friday we drifted from the same room to separate and back again a few times.

So now we have a date planned with them for this coming Saturday night. We cannot wait. I am just flabbergasted at all the good things that are happening just when I decided to stop trying. But I guess that's the way it happens, huh? Knock on wood...