Great business move or not ? Only time will tell...

Shame he didn't ask for some help from those involved

I find great help sometimes, if I just ask....

Happy Swinging,

Fun4ds

The sad thing is that he has asked for help from the site members. I'm not sure what the final straw was as we were on our way home from a party the morning it happened. From what I have gathered, somebody posted a club bashing thread which has as I said, been known to happen and I think he had enough. That thread was removed as well as any other references to clubs outside of the club forum. Something as simple as "had a really great time at (club name), thanks for the wonderful party" in the events or rants and raves can get you banned from posting and possibly the site.

This site (the Swingers Board) was the FIRST swinger website to use forums. It takes a LOT to run said forums, and you have to decide pretty early on what you are going to allow and what you are not going to allow. You can stand back and not pay any attention and the whole place will turn into drama central, with nothing but trolls and people attacking each other, clubs attacking each other, etc. Or you can stand up and be a part of the community you hope to create and set an example. That's what I've done here, and that's what the mods I've brought on to help have done here.

On other swinger websites, the forums are secondary. That's an important thing to understand. They have forums only because they think they should (because everyone else does) not because they want to provide something of value, and not because they want to establish a sense of community. They put up forums and then they stand back and check in occasionally to see what's going on, usually finding out too late about the problems that exist. By the time they discover the problems their only choice is to either close the forums altogether or block whatever they feel is causing the problem. Rather than just paying attention and watching the threads and the people and dealing with problems before/as they become problems, they allow everything to become a problem and end up squashing what could have been a good thing.

Just my thoughts as it's something I've seen happen over and over again on swinger websites ever since I launched the forums here.

Thank you for that insight Julie. To be quite honest, I was wondering to myself how you've made this site drama free. Since posting this blog, I have made the choice not to post as much as I was to the forums of the site. There is way too much drama and flaming that goes on between the frequent posters. While I'm sure it probably has happened here, I haven't seen it as of yet and I find this site to be the best for forums.

It is the best of forums. Julie and the moderators work hard to make it so.