The title to this blog entry you think would have an easy answer to it. 7 months ago when me an my wife started swinging I would have given you an answer like; "For me and my wife to meet a couple or individual to enhance are own loving relationship." of course that would be accomplished by having sex with them of course... That's still part of the answer I would give if someone asked me what do you want from swinging but I would definitely add into it the following; In addition to us as a couple having sex with that "other" couple to enhance our own relationship we also want to some degree to feel wanted and appreciated by that other couple. Let's face it, part of swinging is the ego trip you get from being wanted by that man or woman whom you have found attractive. We both find we want to feel that the other couple has as much passion for us as we do for them else the experience falls a little flat. Sure everyone gets naked, body parts go places but in our limited experiences we have yet to find that passion we are seekng either during or after the deed to be there. Its over and your often left wondering if they really appreciated what just happened either right after the act or many times often days later. Me and my wife are built in such a way that the sex act itself actually matters to us. It means something to us to actually engage in that with that person or persons. We put our all into that sexual moment same as we put our all into getting to know the couple hours, days, or weeks before and after. Meaning we care to know who you are, go on a vanilla date maybe, chat before and after, actually talk after we've had sex to some degree the following weeks. We have analyzed it and we don't think we are a needy couple. We don't try to smother the other couples with to much talking or chatting or texting or make wierd demands on there time. Just a simple hello , here and there. How's your week going. Thinking about you guys. Maybe a little flirt thrown in a once in awhile. SOMETHING! ...but alas we get zip. It's like pulling teeth sometimes with couples! So couples with passion like us is what we look for. Give a care ...I know your busy ..were busy to as well.. but we can take 5 min from our day and shoot an email or text once in awhile in a blue moon ...again its the ego thing..... to a certain degree the ego is important and shouldn't be ignored...it's healthy to want to feel wanted and desired. Not ignored. We are not mad at the couples specifically ..just frustrated that they are not built like us.... Any comments or opinions.