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The search for the single man continues.... sigh

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Le sigh.

There are so many out there... why so difficult to find a good one?

First one- turned out to be a local guy; even though we both advertised as being from a city an hour away, he actually lived 7 mins away. He was married, but his wife wasn't too into playing, and we met her and she said she was okay with it, so the three of us played several times. Good times. Then he started getting more interested in guy-on-guy, which we weren't into, and he decided I made a great confidante and started telling me how he was going to hook up with an old male friend from high school, and was going to what seemed, quite frankly, creepy house parties (women douching with a bottle of beer, pouring it back in and putting it back in the fridge? seriously). Guess what, we stopped playing with him.

 

Second one- he started out the boyfriend of a playmate of PB's from a house party, but then she dumped him, and we kept playing with him, either in a 3some or just one-on-one. God, that was great. But alas, he fell in love with a lovely woman (bless 'em), and that was that.

 

Third one- We played with him once, 6 months ago, and while it was nice, we haven't been able to mesh schedules since then. Married?? Don't know. He DOES seem awfully busy.

 

Fourth one- I played with him at a house party. HOT!! Then invited him to our party, THEN heard from a woman claiming to be his wife. The situation was odd enough that we decided not to pursue that acquaintance.

 

This brings us to June. I really like a good MFM, and so does PB. So we started discreetly looking for a good guy to join us. Of course, once you add looking for single male to a profile, out they come!!

 

We started chatting with one fellow, looked like a nice guy, set up a drinks and ??? date for 2 Thursdays ago, that fell through, the one last week didn't happen either, so we made FIRM plans for this Thursday. I emailed him last night to confirm once again. Oh lord. His hotmail account is closed. His profile on the website is gone. What the hell? I can only conclude that he was married, wife found out and shut him down.

 

A 28 year old wants to know if he's too young. Probably.

A businessman can't show his face, even in his locked section (I can't gauge personality from a cock, he might be surprised to know).

Another guy wants to know if we can play during the day because he travels for work. Not sure about the connection between those two things. I can think of a better reason for why daytime play would work for him- like his wife expects him to be home at night?

 

So the search continues- maybe someday we'll find a smart, funny, sexy guy who wants to hook up once in a while for some smokin' hot sex. In the meantime, I at least have PB!!

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i'm just curious, but where are you looking? sometimes finding the right guy out there can be just as difficult as finding that mythical single woman. have you considered vanilla-geared dating sites? these can be quite resourceful, though they might take some time to acquire exactly what it is you are looking for.

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Well, we're pretty passive about the single guy thing. We just wait and see who responds to our ads on our swinger sites, and go from there. It's not a huge focus of our swinging life, just a nice thing if it happens.

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We've been extremely lucky with the SM thing, if only because we're not actively looking. One is a member of this board who just happened to be passing through our area, and the other we met when he and his wife were still together.

 

I honestly think it's a matter of luck and intuition. Hopefully, you'll find a good one soon (they are out there)!

 

=)

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PB&J

 

I wish you the best of luck in your passive search. I think back and some of my greatest memories are with couples who did not advertise an interest in single guys. Things happened naturally and it was nothing short of phenomenal.

 

I too met a couple from your area that does off-set searches or lists their profile a bit from the smallish town they live in.

 

Before you know it when you are not looking for it, a GENUINE guy will find you.

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Did you get insider info on the numbers being drawn for the 6/49?:nono:

 

 

 

 

I couldnt help it:surrend:

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Yeah, I wish... which reminds me, need to buy tickets for tonight!

 

And Saturday night with our latest prospect fell through... delayed return from business trip. Pity, but it means PB and I get to spend a quiet night home together. It has been awhile, so all is good.

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We went to a lifestyle party last night. The party was given by a couple we know who are one of the few who like single males. They (he) does a fair amount of work to find the good ones. I reaped the benefits of his work last night too :-). Wow, what a cutie. And I never would have gotten a chance to be with this guy except at a party, because we don't seek single guys as a couple. But with Mr. Fuse having fun with a female party guest, I got to partake :-). I'm a lucky girl. Maybe that's a way for you to find a good one too? Do you know any other couples who like single males and have gatherings?

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Well, it was at such a gathering I played with the guy who turned out to not be as single as advertised!! But we do have a few prospects right now- actually have chatted with two of them online in the past few hours, so we'll keep hoping. Right now it's just a matter of coordinating schedules.

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These darn single men just keep being irritating!! Had one fellow really being charming, lots of little notes on the site, chatted online, seemed very interested... then cancelled at the last minute for our first attempt at a date, explaining that his mother had been in a fender-bender, and he'd spent all day helping her out. He even texted me a pic of the accident. Fine, I could deal with that... until a friend remembered a strangely similar incident the year before with a guy the some age... right down to sending the pic. I reserved judgement, gave him a couple more chances to follow through, but he's obviously not interested enough... oh well. It's not like we're desperate.

 

Meanwhile... we're meeting another fellow tomorrow night for drinks... fingers crossed... he seems nice...

 

lol... all of this trouble just to get an mfm once in a while!!

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Have y'all considered finding a couple who are willing to take turns for MFMs and FMFs? That seemed to work just fine for us, plus we got to do MF MFs, too!

 

Alura

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Well, FINALLY!!

And it happened without the elaborate back-and-forthing that was really pissing me off. Got a key on one of our sites around 8, looked like a nice guy, sent ours in return, said we'd like to meet for a drink. He asked if tonight was ok, we said YES, got in the car and drove. Met him at a coffee shop after 11, were at his place by 12, and I was one VERY happy lady! Oh and PB had a great time too.

This encounter proved that gut instinct is the way to go- doesn't take long to figure out if the chemistry is there. Early days yet, but he says he'd like to repeat the experience, and so would we. OH MY!!

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