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What to do, what to do ? ...Decisions, decisions...

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I haven't been around much the past month or so and there is a good reason...Ted gave us a serious medical scare a couple of days after we returned from our "Mountain Creek Grove" trip back at the beginning of July. He's better now, back to normal and things are going to be okay, but the scare was bad enough that I stayed in North Carolina with him the whole month of July because he couldn't drive due to the dizziness he was having.

 

I'll say right now that even though I've never been so scared in all my life, it was one of the best months he and I have ever spent with each other. We were together 24 hours a day for almost a full month...and enjoyed every minute of it...and really didn't want it to end. It also re-enforced our decision we made back in June, of spending every weekend together.

 

Back in June he and I decided that since our youngest had graduated from high school, there was no reason for us to spend every other weekend apart...(as a bit of back story, Ted lives in North Carolina, I live in Florida and he comes home every other weekend )...with me no longer having any obligation to stay home on the weekends that he doesn't come home, it was decided that I would travel to North Carolina and spend the weekend with him....it's working out great as the weekends he comes home we spend with the kids (yes, they are all grown now, but for some unknown reason we can't get rid of them and they all still want to be here, the whole weekend, that their dad is here :rollseye: )...the weekends I go to stay with him, we have all to ourselves :D.

 

The problem we are facing is that this weekend is my weekend to go stay with him, something I was really looking forward to, as well...not only was I going to get to spend the weekend with Ted (sans kids), but we kind of had plans on getting together with a single friend for some playtime.

 

However, we have a daughter who is pregnant, and although she's not due till the end of the month, according to her OB from her last appointment (last week), she is already dilating and effaced 70%...which basically means we could be having another grandbaby any day now, or it could be another two weeks before the baby is born. We were really hoping she'd go into labor this past weekend since Ted was home, but no such luck.

 

My "What to do" question isn't really a question as I "know" what I have to do...stay home this weekend...but that doesn't make me feel any better. I want to be with Ted this weekend, not sitting around waiting to see if just "maybe" our daughter goes into labor...I know that once our daughter goes into labor he's on his way home and we'll have a few days with each other, but it won't be the same. Yes, we may be weird parents in that we've always been there when one of our daughters were giving birth...we didn't miss the first three and we're not going to miss this one, but damnit...we were suppose to have at least one more weekend to ourselves before we had to bow to the responsibilities of being parents/grandparents.

 

Our daughter goes back to the OB tomorrow...not that it really matters what he says...as Ted and I decided tonight that I would be staying home this weekend as it's just getting too close to our new granddaughter being born and I need to be here for our daughter...just in case.

 

There is however still hope...if our daughter would go into labor either tomorrow, Thursday or Friday...Ted would be on his way home, and if she'd have the baby before or by Friday night sometime we'd still be able to be with her and make our favorite house party on Saturday night...that just happens to be this coming weekend.

 

That may seem callus and selfish, but we realized a long time ago that children grow up and form their own lives and eventually really don't want to have their parents around, so you nurture the relationship you have with each other...because in the end, all you have is each other. Hence, the disappointment of me not going to N.C. this weekend (spending time with Ted and possible play time) and/or Ted not coming home this weekend, if our daughter doesn't go into labor (again, time with him and possible play time).

 

We'll put our lives on hold for our children/grandchildren, but we won't stop hoping and/or planning for our own time with each other and what WE want to do.

 

Damn kids...I love them more than life itself, but they sure do put a damper on what me and their father wants to do at times.

 

T.

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.....but we realized a long time ago that children grow up and form their own lives and eventually really don't want to have their parents around, so you nurture the relationship you have with each other...because in the end, all you have is each other.

We came to that realization early in our relationship too. I think that's why couples say we are still so "in love", when they are just "Mom & Dad Corp, LLC".

Damn kids...I love them more than life itself, but they sure do put a damper on what me and their father wants to do at times.

Hell yeah they do! :lol:

 

Congrats on the newest addition to be. Now, if the new baby will just cooperate, and be born now, he/she would have the inside track on becoming "the favorite". :D

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Get Mama to swallow a cell phone so the stork can text yall its flight plans. Congratulations, Granny ;-)

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Dumb question perhaps, but could Ted come to you this weekend instead of you going to him? At least you would be together then, even if it's not by yourselves and with the possibility of playtime. There's probably some good reason why not that I have missed in your post or just wasn't stated.

 

And yes, congratulations. I do hope you get your alone time, and the joy of being grandparents again, as well as helping your daughter, who surely is grateful.

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Thank you all :) We're definitely looking forward to the new addition. And, socolais...I'll pass on your suggestion to our daughter, but not sure she'll go for it :lol:

 

Fuse,

 

I didn't address the reason Ted won't be coming this way this weekend, so you didn't miss it. He was home last weekend which meant, last week he worked four 10s M-Th, was off Friday to travel home, off Monday to travel back to N.C. and will work four 10s T-F this week. He'll do the same thing next week, so he can be home next weekend. It's a 12 hour drive so it takes a full day of travel.

 

When our daughter goes into labor, he will immediately head home, regardless of what day it is, using his vacation days to be here for the new arrival if necessary.

 

So, it's really not that he couldn't come home, he has enough vacation he could use some, but we'd rather save it and use it for something more fun than waste it just because we want to be together this weekend and are being whiny because once again, one of our children screwed up our plans.

 

Damn kids...you get them grown and think you'll have more time with each other and can actually start doing the things you want to do and then what do they do...they start giving you grandbabies and you lose your heart all over again :)

 

T.

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Here is hoping Ted's medical issues are behind you for good and all the best with the upcoming new arrival.

 

I think you living arrangements are a testament to your love for each other. Not many couples could survive it, let alone thrive, as yours seems to be.

 

Good luck and congrats!

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I guess I've got no business complaining about my hubby's travel after reading this. I do know what you mean about the pull between being a parent and wanting time for you and your spouse. We run into that one a lot.

 

Here's hoping your granddaughter will be cooperative so you and Ted can have that time together.

 

And I'm glad to hear Ted's okay.

 

=)

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Just listening with admiration... :D

 

But to be honest, its why we keep the apartment down south.... It's our get-a-way. :lol:

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Congratulations on the coming addition.

 

When the kids were young we kept saying, "One day they'll be out of the house and we can do what we want when we want." They are adults and out of the house but still seem to interfere with what we naively thought would be our life.

 

Glad to hear Ted is doing better. Last year Gator literally almost died on me. It's so scary.

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I think you living arrangements are a testament to your love for each other. Not many couples could survive it, let alone thrive, as yours seems to be.

 

Thank you, we still feel like we're those two teenagers who fell in love so many years ago and it's so nice to read/see that others see that in us as well :)

 

Sweet,

When you're away from the one you want to be with, there's always room for complaining...so go ahead and complain, I hear you and understand :)

 

Fun,

Get-a-ways are the best!...it's the way we've come to think of Ted's place in N.C. ...no kids, no responsibilities...just enjoyment time of each other...plus, Ted does all the cooking when I go stay with him, which I REALLY enjoy!

 

No baby yet :( , but a new hope...got a call from one of Ted's old Navy buddies tonight whom he hasn't seen in almost 25 years, and he's going to be less than 20 miles from here next week (T-F)...so it would really be nice if that baby would come any time between now and oh...Wednesday next week...Ted would at least be here to see his buddy, which would be a real treat for him.

 

We're still holding out hope she'll go into labor tomorrow, but it really doesn't matter, we can go another week without seeing each other for a healthy baby and a healthy momma...we've become experts at phone sex over the years :D

 

T.

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Vol,

 

I remember your scare...and honey, I felt the same way. I got a call they were taking him to the ER and my heart stop...I was packed and out the door literally in less than 15 minutes...that 12 hour drive to N.C. seemed like a lifetime. We've both still got our loves and for that I am extremely grateful!

 

T.

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Now, if the new baby will just cooperate, and be born now,he/she would have the inside track on becoming "the favorite"

 

:lol: Yep, the little shit is pushing her luck (we know it's a girl)...but she still has a few days left to be in the running.

 

Oh, and when I say "damn kids"...that is said with love and a double meaning...our kids first initials, in the order they were born are...D. A. M. N. ...I'm constantly referring to them as DAMN...or DAMNH's...which it became with our adopted daughter (DAHMN)...but we put her initial at the end so it becomes...DAMNHooligans! :lol:

 

And, with this blog entry I broke my rule of NOT talking about our children in this particular blog...but they do influence mine and Ted's lives, so I guess it was inevitable.

 

T.

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