Make some business cards with your info on them.

Example:

Kent and Leah

E-mail xxxxxx@xxxxx

Web sites we use

LL---swingerset

Swing Lifestyle---swingerset

AFF---swingerset

(Some people add a phone number and a picture)

Contact phone- you can buy a cheap $20.00 dollar throw away cell phone and give out that number to people.

To us singles are not swingers, swingers are couples who choose to share themselves with others. Singles do have a place in the lifestyle. We classify singles both male and female as swingles. Many couples are more comfortable with only having one other in their bed at a time. Some couples are only looking for a single female to let the female half explore her bi side. Some are only looking for a male to satisfy the females desire to have sex with more than 1 man at a time. There are others who like to watch their partner with someone else.

Things to not bring up at swinger events: Politics, religion and any other controversial subject. We all have our opinions and we should keep them to ourselves. Nothing kills the mood quicker than disagreeing about something.

Taking one for the team: don’t let anyone fool you, you will do it, and you will have fun doing it too. You will do this so your spouse will get something that they want. It’s ok to do it too.

Hall Passes- Some couples give each other “Hall passes” these allow you to go off on your own and have sex with others. The way this is handled varies from couple to couple. Some actually write out a permission slip and others will just make a phone call to okay it. How you handle it is completely up to you. We know couples who won’t accept a hall pass unless it’s given in person by the non-participating partner and others who don’t care at all if you have permission of not.

Cheating- While not common in the swinging world it does happen. It’s your choice if you want to include cheaters in your life.

Safer sex- What you choose to do is completely up to you, your partner and those whom you play with. Our suggestion is that condoms always be used for intercourse. You can make up your own minds about protection for oral sex. We also suggest that you try out different condoms at home, find ones you like, and carry them with you. Another benefit of trying them out is that you get used to using them and won’t have issues when it’s time to play.

Performance anxiety- Most men and woman will run into this at some point, for women it’s an easy fix, just add lube. For men it can be embarrassing and frustrating to both the man and their playmate. If you find that you are suffering from this there are a few things that can help. Drink less alcohol, have your SO fluff you, sometimes this can lessen the nerves that are the issue.

The best thing to do is look at why you are thinking about swinging. If it’s to fix something that you feel is wrong in your relationship, then swinging will only make things worse. If it’s to enhance your relationship, then you are on the right track. Swinging can open up your feelings for your significant other to new levels. Make sure that you are both on the same page in all things. Most experienced swingers can tell if one or the other of you is not into it and just going along to please their spouse.