We have had so many questions from new couples and singles in the last month I am going to try and answer them here.

Q: We are very new how do we get started?

A: The first thing you should do is figure out exactly what it is that you are looking for, and what you are comfortable with.

If you are looking for friends first, then the best thing to do is contact people who have similar interests, are in your age group, and are attractive to you. Express that you are looking for friends first then fun. If you are just looking to hook up try and meet as many people as possible. Always let people know what it is that you want from them.

Q: I’m a single female, how do I meet people who are safe?

A: If I were you I would only meet people in a open safe spot, a bar, restaurant, or coffee place. Set your first meeting during daylight hours. This is the internet so you never know if someone is telling you the truth, so play it safe.

The best way to meet quality people is at an event put on by a host who has your safety and security in mind.

Q: we are looking for a single female, but haven’t had any luck?

A: single females are much sought after, they are out there, but because so many are looking for them they have the ability to pick and choose. The first thing to do is be open and honest with them, most women (not all) need some kind of connection with you in order to take that next step, so find one who you have things in common with and make friends first, If she thinks that you are just wanting to use her your chances go way down.

Q: We are a good looking couple, not ken and barbi, But no one responds to our e-mails?

A: First thing first, I looked at your profile and it’s very low on information. Take some time to rewrite it, telling people something about yourselves. Fill in as much of the info as possible. Get verified. Add a few more pics, face pics if you are comfortable with that.

Second, in your e-mails put yourself out there a little, something more than “Hi, wanna meet?”

Q: What are your parties like, who attends, what goes on?

A: our events are a great low pressure way to meet like minded couples and singles, there is dancing and flirting. Our parties are off-premises’ so there is no sex at the event itself, we like to say “if it’s time to cum it’s time to go”. We hold our events at bars and hotel ballrooms. All types of people attend our events, a good way to describe it is as a real sexy wedding dance. Same people just dressed a lot sexier! Our events are low pressure as I stated no actual sex happens at the party, we have a dj and open bar.

Any event is a good way to meet like-minded people, there are tons of people to flirt with and talk to.

Q: how should we dress for an event?

A: we usually tell people sexy casual, so jeans and a t-shirt may not fit, but slacks and a polo shirt would be fine. Some people like to go all out and wear a jacket and tie. The woman will be dressed sexy, short skirts and sexy tops. The most important thing is to be comfortable in what you are wearing, if you’re not it will show and may be a turn off to others, making them think that it’s them who are making you uncomfortable.

Q: What if we see someone we know?

A: They are there for the same reasons that you are and have just as much too loose as you do if they talk out of turn. The best thing to do is go up say hi and take it from there. Then when you see them in the real world you can share a look and giggle.

Q: How do we take the next step when we find someone we like?

A: Tell them, be honest “Hey we/I like you, do you want to go somewhere more private?”

Q: I’m really interested in this, how do I get my significant other interested?

A: Talk to them, Do you talk about adding others while having sex? If so then bring it up over coffee the next morning. “You know fantasizing about adding another person was real hot last night, Do you think we could really do that?” Let then think about it don’t pressure them. When out for dinner or drinks you can say “Wow that couple over there is hot, what do you say, should we bring them home for hot sex tonight?” If you do this in a fun way, without pressure, you are planting the idea in their heads. Let them think about it. If it’s in the cards in time your SO will bring the topic back up and you can discuss it.

Q: How do people deal with seeing their husband or wife having sex with others?

A: I can’t answer this for anyone but us. For us swinging/swapping is foreplay. We are able to separate love and sex. Sex is just a fun physical activity, and love is an emotional bond.

Q: This is a little embarrassing, but when my penis is soft it’s small, about 3 inches, when excited it is about 6.5 inches. Last night we met with a nice couple and took the party back to our hotel, once in the room we all got undressed and the other husband was quite a bit larger than I when soft. I was very nervous about this and had a hard time getting an erection, once I did things worked out fine. But this morning I was wondering if others have this same issue?

A: a lot of men have a “grower” a penis that is small when soft but grows to a good size.

L group’s men in 2 categories Growers and Hangers, hangers tend to be close to full size even when soft. As long as you can get and maintain an erection there should be nothing to worry about.

Q: I have a latex allergy, what are my choices for protection?

A: Almost all the major condom manufactures make non-latex condoms, just search in the condom section of your drug store. And carry your choice with you so not to miss an opportunity.

Q: How prevalent are drugs in the Lifestyle?

A: they are there but for the most part you will not see them, as you are reading through profiles you will see things like 420 friendly and nose candy, these are people who either do drugs or are comfortable with people that do them

Q: I have performance induced ED do very many men have this issue and do the ED drugs help?

A: Almost all men have this issue at some point. There are ways to get past it without drugs (I’d try these ideas before turning to drugs). Have your Sig other fluff you, once you have an erection you most likely will be fine. Some men, me included have an issue with condoms and maintaining an erection, we are not used to using them and even the small amount of lost stimulation is enough to cause it. The best way to get past it is to start using condoms at home, once you get used to them, you will be able to perform with one no matter what.

There are lots more questions and I will be adding to this.

MR.