I guess now we know how you lost your rings in the parking lot. You were right to be upset, if this was your rule together then it should have been kept.

I agree with Julie. I think if you two do get back together you should take a break from this lifestyle and work on your trust issues b/c it will be a hard road. This lifestyle is not for everyone and I'm the first to say sometimes its overwhelming and you just need to take a step back and remember that this is supposed to be fun.

I do agree about stepping back for awhile with or without him. I am probably going to have a really hard time with the trust because we have played many times and my trust for him I thought was unbreakable. Boy was I wrong!! I never thought that a man with it all in his lap would ever push the boundries to fit him for all of 5min and a lifetime of horrible memories! I do appreciate you all and your time to read my blog!! I am still broken and hopefully on the way to rebuilding the trust I had in my judgements! Thanks!!!

We had a condom break on our first time out...and he noticed it was broken, took it off and continued with what they were doing. His thoughts were...well...the damage is already done (ie: it broke...so he he was going to 'catch' any cooties, damage done).

Mine were pretty much along your lines, that is our primary rule...wtf?

I posted about it here (altho I'm pretty sure I was more pissed and hysterical about it than I am now lol).

I have never been on a site like this and so newbie is not even close! LOL I do want to thank all who have given their input on this issue as it was tearing me apart! UPDATE, we are back together and discussed what we were both thinking(a little late, better than never) and came to the agreement that I get to be on rubber duty which is fine with me because that allows us to take the shared responsibility. He did make a valid point though, when we play with women and goin down on them without protection he is just as weiry about if I am going to get something or from thier mouth to my hoo ha! I suppose I didn't think of it that way because I am not up in them and visa versa. Then kinda felt bad about not taking that into consideration before i snapped. WOW, guys really think about that!