A few years ago we made plans to meet a couple from out of town, it was about a 3 hour drive to their location. We had met them at a party and we all knew the attraction was there, since the party we had all chatted online and via phone quite a bit. We all had discussed rules and what we like.

We got to their town and checked into our hotel and freshened up to meet them for dinner. We had picked a very upscale restaurant to meet them at, as dinner progressed we were all playing under the table and things were defiantly heating up. After dinner we went to a club close by for some dancing. We were all in the mood and things were looking good for some fun later!

This is when things went south for me, the ladies went off to the restroom and her hubby started in with step by step directions on how to proceed. He told me every button to push, where and how she liked to be caressed, licked etc…

When we got back to our hotel the girls started in on some bi play with us guys watching as always it was fun to watch but then the other hubby started in with the directions again, my Mrs. and the other Mrs. not wanting to spoil the fun just went along with it and continued to play mostly ignoring what he was saying. As things progressed us two men joined in on the fun, but the other hubby would not shut up, the directions just kept coming to the point that he was ignoring my Mrs. Seeing this I quickly came up with an idea to save the night. I got up and asked if we could try separate rooms, as I seemed to be having an issue with (hubby induced) ED. They were okay with the idea and things from then on went very well.

After the first round of play we rejoined them in the sitting area of the suite and chatted, I asked them if he always liked to direct the action, He answered that this was only their third time with full swap and he didn’t even realize that he was doing it. We had a great night and he did his best not to continue with the director’s role.

Talking to them more the next morning at breakfast he stated that, he has a very active mind and had been going over all the possibilities in his mind for the two weeks since we had set a date to get together. He apologized for his behavior and hoped that he hadn’t put us off to getting together with them again in the future.

What brought this back to my mind is that the other Mrs. (we have played with them many times since that first night and are good friends) called me yesterday and related a story of their hooking up with a new couple last weekend, and the hubby of that couple was playing the directors role, we both got a good laugh.

I guess the moral of the story is what goes around comes around.

For us one of the best things about swinging is the excitement of discovering what turns others on, what happens if I lick here or suck there. Having a step by step plan of how and what to do is not only taking away some of the fun, but removing any spontaneity as well.