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Looking back... three months into the LS.

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Dont.Stop

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It's been three months since Mrs. DontStop went to a party thrown by a swinging couple while I was out of town. We knew they'd be the beginning of something fun, we just didn't know how or when, or what lay ahead of us.

 

I remember talking to Mrs. the morning after and she nervously telling me that she ended up in bed with the male. I rushed home as soon as I could and we had the most *incredible* sex we'd ever had that afternoon and evening.

 

In the ensuing week I found this site and took in everything I could to be ready for a visit to an on-premise club, and created a profile on SDC. Some time later I found SLS and preferred it and settled on it as our home base.

 

We've met great people, and have met some not-so-great. We've been to a hotel party and a private party. A couple meet & greets. Soft swap, hard swap, same room, separate room. MFM, FMF and MFMF. We've had hall passes. Friends old and not so old have discovered our SLS profile. We've been rejected far more times than we've been accepted. We've made some mistakes and learned from them. And we've taught others so they won't do the same.

 

In that short time some have drifted out of the LS. We've had wonderful and not-so-wonderful moments. I've struggled with performance issues, but have found women who have spent time in the lifestyle are accustomed to it. I've also learned it's true-- women will enjoy it if you take time to pleasure them even if you can't get that erection.

 

We've become incredibly close with one particular couple. We've spent a lot of time together, both swinging and vanilla. Mrs. has allowed me to forge a very strong emotional bond with the female.

 

What most has happened here is that Mr. and Mrs. DontStop have become closer than they ever imagined possible. No topic is taboo. Mrs. has become incredibly confident and finally at ease with her sexual being after hiding it for much of her life. Normally the shy one, I'm more talkative, more confident. I've become more open than I've ever been. I've become more aware, more sensitive. Perhaps juggling two women in my life that mean so much to mean has done this. And Mrs. encourages this relationship on this side, by reminding me the other day "Fredrick's of Hollywood has a huge sale going on, and you owe someone a pretty piece." When I went to Frederick's, I bought two pieces. One for the girlfriend, and one for the most amazing woman in the world-- Mrs. DontStop.

 

Our clothes don't fit the same. We've dropped a few pounds since we started. The ls has given us impetus to do better for ourselves. Exercise, multivitamins, and sex. Lots, and lots of sex.

 

Yeah, we've crammed a lot.. A LOT into 3 months. We probably broke through the learning curve quicker than most. But we're open, we're honest, and our trust and faith in each other is beyond measure. It's really been more fun than we could have hoped for. External forces dictate we slow our pace. But there's a big party next month and we're not missing it. More people to meet, more fun to be had.

 

I can't say this journey would have been nearly as successful if not for this board. The stories, the questions, the answers, the advice. Thanks all, and of course, thank you Julie.

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Your success is a strong indication that you're "doing it right". Congratulations to both of yall. The best part is the closeness with our spouse.

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Thanks. I forgot to add that we just bought the book "The Ethical Slut". We're not done with it but I already recommend it. When you're dealing with so many new emotions and trying (unsuccessfully) to fit them in to your previous experiences, this book helps straighten them out.

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As I told you before, I sure am enjoying reading about your first steps into swinging. It reminds me of us way back when!

 

I'm also very pleased that both of you are enjoying your new found freedom.

 

K&L

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It sounds like ya'll have had a great three months. And it reminds me of when we were new. Good times . . .

 

=)

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