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Are we living a Lie?
I'm watching a documentary about the country singer, Chely Wright, coming out as a gay woman. It really makes me sad to watch it and to think about how hard it must be to put yourself out there so publicly as one person, when you are someone else. As I think about it, I can't help but wonder if it's so different than who we are. Perhaps, it's more so for someone like me who has a large part of their life built around swinging. It is my business as well as my personal life. It does often drive me to push people away because there is so much of who I am that I don't feel comfortable sharing with them. This is especially true here in an area of the world where so many people are so religious and have such strong beliefs about things.
The people I'm closest to are the people who know everything about me. They know that I'm a swinger, they know that I run this website and that I wrote a book. They know that once upon a time I did online porn. Sadly, these are not the majority of my friends. It really does make me wonder if perhaps we are living just much of a lie as a gay person who lives inside the closet. We so often tell people to keep this lifestyle choice to themselves because others won't understand. But, the truth is, maybe we shouldn't keep it to ourselves. We will lose friends if we come out, but what is the cost of keeping it a secret?
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