I'm sorry for your loss. I'm glad to hear that your circle of friends has pulled together for each other.

While I wouldn't have spoken either, its really a shame that friends who knew her best must remain silent for decorum's sake.

Thanks ya'll! And on one hand,I agree, Chicup. That point actually brought up a moment of levity, when the owners of the club we frequented whispered to us, "We should go up and say how we really knew her, and tell a few stories." Then again, would it not have been a wee bit selfish to reveal things to her already devastated family that would further upset them? (shrugs)

There was a book I read, "Speaker for the Dead" which had something I really liked as a kid and still do now.

The "Speaker for the Dead" would basically do an investigation of the life of someone who died and then tell their whole story at the memorial. The good the bad the shocking. I wouldn't mind my swinging activities coming out after my death, but obviously I wouldn't want my wife to have to field those stares from the uninitiated either, so I'd have to go second

Oh, I will be the last one to go, so that won't even be an issue . . . Since Mr. Sweet is a guy, he'd likely get more knowing smiles an thumbs-ups.

=)

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of a dear friend. *hugs* At least there were several in attendance that knew her closely...I think a lot of people pass away without revealing their true, honest selves to a close set of friends and family.

My wife and I know a man of the lifestyle who lost his wife who had gone into a hospital for what was supposed to be brief and simple surgery. So I believe I have something to which I can relate. I hope your dearly departed friend had a good life.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Thanks, ya'll. And yes, L did live a full life, however brief. Her husband's band did a wonderful job last Saturday, and while he's still trying to find his way, we were all so proud of him.

=)