There are some fantasies that are best left as fantasies. And sometimes, even the reality can't live up to a fantasy. But, if you both are interesting and willing to try it out, just go at the pace of the slowest partner. Even if you two have the experience you have, and it doesn't live up to the hype, it's still something that you two can share together as a couple...and that can be a wonderful thing.

There are some fantasies that are best left as fantasies. And sometimes' date=' even the reality can't live up to a fantasy. But, if you both are interesting and willing to try it out, just go at the pace of the slowest partner. Even if you two have the experience you have, and it doesn't live up to the hype, it's still something that you two can share together as a couple...and that can be a wonderful thing.[/quote']

 

I totally agree with you sunbuckus, The fantasy could be way better than the real thing or vise versa. I think it will depend weather we find the best possible match for us. We've never done this but I feel that rushing into this might end up in a not so pleasurable experience and that would defeat the purpose. I personally fell emotionally ready, yet I'm not naive to think that once we get there or if we get there i might encounter little different feelings. But as of now i fell completely secured and completely trustful of my wife. She in the other hand is not that she doesn't want too or anything like that, for her i think is more fear of the unknown. But we both agreed to keep the option open and if its meant to be then it will happen. Thanks for the advice, this is the reason i joined this site. Everyone has been great. Thanks again sunbuckus!!!!

I know it's been a few months since you began this thread and, heck, you may have already had your experience or dismissed the idea completely. But I just had a thought that I wanted to share with you.

If you two still toy with the idea, the next step might be to both agree that if the perfect person, place, and time came together, that you'd both agree to try it.

This is a step that might make the fantasy play more intense for you and change her way of thinking about it.

And discuss how you both will understand if one, or both, of you have second thoughts during or after a real experience.

Once she understands that it's simply going to be an experiment, if it actually happens, she will feel more comfortable with exploring.