Essay 1 /2016:

Any swinging single man cannot search for /~ hunt down~ the elusive unicorn, a single woman swinger (or golden unicorn- a bisexual single woman swinger) for a paired relationship just as you cannot catch and bottle a rainbow nor make a suite of armor from the metal mercury. I'm not talking about a finding a relationship with a woman into polyamory or plural loving- nothing wrong at all with that type of relationship if thats your ideal but I'm talking about a standard male/female paired relationship.

A swinging single man MUST not be looking for the unicorn in order to be chosen by the unicorn. She will come from beyond your peripheral vision, see you for you being yourself and make her choice. Only then will you be apprised that she wants more of a relationship beyond that of just swinging, friends with benefits, or a booty call, etc. She may be single-never married, divorced, or widowed but even if the never-married woman will have be independently single for years, she'll have had enough relationships to know what she wants from life and her man.

And you have to be ready for that relationship in your life in order to love this magical and elusive woman.... once it happens you've been given a winning lottery ticket!