There have been lots of things going on lately in my personal life so I haven't been very active here, but one thing I felt I need to write a bit about is that this is our 10th anniversary in the lifestyle! Of those 10 years, I've been on this board for 8. I've never counted but my sex partners are probably in 3-digit territory. My husband frequently jokes that I've had so many partners of different nationalities and ethnicity that I can hold a UN meeting inside my vagina. That's an exaggeration. Maybe just a Security Council meeting.

We began like most people, going to meet and greet and parties and clubs. But I felt I'm luckier than most. I've someone very close and dear to me who was already a swinger and really showed me and Mr. A the way, not to mention introducing us to their lifestyle friends. We managed to avoid many of the pitfalls, never got STDs (knocking on wood here), and no major mishap other than one pregnancy scare. We made some mistakes along the way and some regrets as well, but thank goodness for this board and its wonderful people in helping us through them. We got to experience the lifestyle overseas for a few years when we lived in Asia. It was interesting to see the cultural differences, some of which took this independent-minded American-raised woman a while to get used to. It was also at this time we began to explore bdsm, which is a big part of our lives now. And not long after we got back, we met a bi-couple that organized regular bi-friendly parties. They not only spent the time and efforts for parties, but they actively sought and screened new couples to join. So for a long time, we didn't find the need to go out on our own and look for playmates. I really do feel blessed.

When the couple retired and moved away not too long ago, we were lost. I've complained to a few of my friends on the board that it was so difficult to find playmates. But our sexual desires have also evolved. We dabbled in cuckold fantasies before, and Mr. A told me that he's more excited about now that than swinging with another couple. It was a shocker at first but I went along, mostly because it's easier to find another male for MMF with us. We discovered a whole cuckold subculture and haven't really looked back. I've also gotten to enjoy the mental eroticism of it, and I'd say we have pretty much been playing in MMF scenarios most of the time now. We do occasionally play with couples that we already know, but we don't feel the need to find new couples for play. Along with bdsm, I felt we have moved into more extreme fetishes and kink. Just like when some swingers don't find vanilla sex exciting anymore, I wonder if I need more kinky excitement after years of swinging.

So where to go from here? Having made the decision not to have children helped clear up many things. I'm still grappling with a couple of bad decisions I've made in the past and continue to have consequences. I want to share those on here but not quite ready to do it yet. I still can't believe it's been 10 years. I still remember the first party we went to. I was so nervous my anti-perspirant couldn't stop my armpits from sweating through my dress. The other day, we had a play session with a bull (as the single man is known in cuckolding) and by the end, he said to me, "man, you are one freaky bitch!" That's how far I've come.