Question for the females who have experienced oral sex from both sexes.

[mwsw4ever 15]

My question is for BI-females or women who experienced another woman going down on her. Who ,males or females, you feel is the best at oral sex hands down,or should i say heads down facelick, and why?

[DBL D 120]

I'll Bite

 

You often will hear how a woman has such a softness about her and knows the right spots to hit. Pretty weak IMHO because your man should know all the "RIGHT" spots! A man can be just as sensitive towards a womans pleasure as a woman can be.

 

All I can say is that if a woman wants to be with a woman it is usually because of something besides how well she does oral.

 

Male D

[shygirl0305 24]

ok. I don't have as many experiences with women as I do men but so far my hat goes off to the men. I enjoy a woman's touch but so far it has not compared to that of a man's. Women have made me feel good but men make me melt.

 

~shygirl

[DBL D 120]

Hi Shy,

 

Well I think...

 

The experience of your partner and her desire for you will have a definite effect on how everything goes.

 

I think some of the girls may be just experimenting with bi and that may keep them from really getting into it, but I'm sure the heart is pounding during their first encounters even if all they do is pet each other!

 

Male D

[GeorgiaCouple 16]

Okay,

I had to get in on this one.... speaking from a bi-womans side...seeing as I am an open bi-woman.

 

The woman has a softer touch bit, is very true....

 

Let me see if I can explain this to your satisfication..... A bi-woman isnt in it just for how well a woman can go down on her.... for a bi-woman, there is a time when she wants the softness a woman can bring to intimacy.... Yes men can be all sensitive and soft but sorry not as soft as a woman can be. Women are sensual creatures from the get go....born that way..will always be that way....

 

For a bi-woman its being with a beautiful sensual creature just like herself... I personally enjoy when a man (my hubby) goes down on me simple because most of the time I like his strong tongue and when he uses his strong fingers.... but when with a woman, you want that soft sensual licking that only a woman can provide....

 

Just my two cents worth..hope this helps some.

[mixedcouple3426 15]

Wow!

I thought the women would be leading this poll by a landslide.

It's alot closer than I thought it would be.

It sounds like from the replies so far that it isn't so much about technique but more of a state of mind and being.True,men will never be women and I believe that as a man ,theres a realm that we just can't grasp.Are women better than men at cunninglingus?Probably for the most part.Can a man be just as good as a woman technique wise?I think so.I think one category is missing in this poll;Some men are just as good techniquely

[piggy 15]

This is a tough one to answer. I don't think that you can make a distinction by gender. I think it's really an individual thing. The very best, in my humble opinion, is Kermit

[Mrs Spoomonkey 117]

I voted for men hands down. I would have thought the women would be better but in my "very limited" exposure to being with women in our play I have found that is not the case. My first experience was with a woman of a couple and as Mr Spoo noted (him and the hubby watched us) it was a very tender and intimate exchange between the two of us. But since then I have yet to find a woman who does it as well as a man or does it gently

Honestly I have found this to be true in other areas out side of the lifestyle which is why I don't go to female doctors either, the ones I have gone to are not neccessarily as kind (bed side manner) or as gentle.

 

While I have fun when we play with couples and everyone (mostly the women since Mr Spoo isn't even remotely bi) mixing it up I still love men!! Especially Mr Spoo!!! What can I say . . . you guys are great and sometimes I think you just end up getting the rap so to speak

 

Mrs Spoomonkey

[funwthusok 24]

I thoroughly enjoy the feelings i get from oral sex with both man and woman and for much different reasons. Both sexes can hit the right spots , physically, but what separates the two is the bigest sensual organ in the body, the brain.

To me, this is what adds the flavour to things.. a woman approaches things with a different goal in mind than a man does, she is slow and deliberate while maintaining her soft and gentle nature... he is more direct and even when being gentle, he is firm.

And my brain changes the whole picture too. What i think about is different depending on whether it is a man or woman pleasing me. The "naughtyness" of being with a woman adds to the experience...

With all that said, and take it as you will, there is one person who has been able to please me COMPLETLY, and that is the MR.

Sorry ladies, but he's good.

 

the MRS.

[Greg & Sheryl 368]

I don't think that you can make a distinction by gender. I think it's really an individual thing.

Sheryl agrees with this. Regardless of gender, some individuals are more talented at cunnilingus than others. However, she does concede that being with a woman can be more exciting psychologically, probably because it doesn't happen as frequently for her.

[Vespertine 31]

I voted: "Can't tell the difference".

 

I don't think the sex of the giver makes that much of a difference. It all depends on their experience with oral, and how much they enjoy giving it.

 

I have found, that if someone (man or woman) really enjoys eating pussy- chances are they'll be very good at it.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I've never gotten off as easy with oral as I do with actual sex or manual stimulation, but overall when it comes down to it, there's really only been one woman that really got me off giving me oral. I don't know how much of that can be contributed to the fact that more often when recieving oral from a woman there were other people around watching than is likely when getting oral from a man. Maybe I need to do more research.

[rounder 17]

I've never gotten off as easy with oral as I do with actual sex or manual stimulation, but overall when it comes down to it, there's really only been one woman that really got me off giving me oral. I don't know how much of that can be contributed to the fact that more often when recieving oral from a woman there were other people around watching than is likely when getting oral from a man. Maybe I need to do more research.

 

I have wondered about that, too...do you think it makes a noticeable difference if the two females are alone together (as opposed to being on display for hubbies or others)? I remember several years ago on the Bob Berkewitz sex talk tv show that a wife called in saying that she had just had a threesome with husband & another woman...she said that she enjoyed the sex with the woman but was just too nervous to really let go with husband watching...she said whe wanted to experience it again & was considering getting together with the woman (a mutual friend of her & husband) alone. I have also read on this forum about husbands sometimes leaving the wives alone in the bedroom to play together. Anyone have thoughts on this? Does the "audience' factor make a huge difference...especially in first bisexual encounters?

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

The one time I did get off with another woman it was just the two of us, but that isn't the only time I've ever been alone with another woman (and those other times I didn't get off), so it's hard to say but I do think it probably affects it.

[mwsw4ever 15]

After posting the poll and question,the Mrs. told me her answer.She said most of the men we meet and myself are great,but she has to give the best experiences to being with women.She said that being with a woman is more intense from the feeling that she is doing something naughty. facelick

[akamgaxoxo 25]

I can totally understand the whole woman are more tender thing, however I like the way my husband is strong with his tongue and hands and his general play when it comes down to it! I actually prefer this, he is gentle in his own right, but the woman was just tooooo gentle and well that left me wanting more. So I decided no more bi experiences and I'll stick with men...cuz I gotta say I LOVE 'EM! hahah facelick

[GeorgiaCouple 16]

Well I can agree with you on that respect, I love the way my husband does it, he is firm yet gentle, and very strong with his tongue. I to have also met women that can be to gentle, I have found that some women can even kiss to softly.... and it leaves something lacky. That's why when I play..hubby is always there to pick up any slack....LOL But for me, as a bi-woman, its not about how well the woman can do oral...its being with a soft, sensual woman that is the turn on...... When another woman is involved it is always with hubby there.... for back up...LOL Sometimes he just watches, but I know in the back of my mind....if she is lacking.. all i gotta do is point at him and he will fill in for sure....

[DBL D 120]

To akamgaxoxo:

 

That is why they call it Bicurious.

 

At least You went, You saw, You came (I hope).

 

There are, however, other more aggressive women out there, BTW! It probably isn't any different for a woman with a woman than with a man: you still may ask if you're doing it the way they like...or even give instructions.

 

Male D

[GeorgiaCouple 16]

Yeah, communication is a big part of it...... sometimes a little encouragement goes along way..... I know I like to be given directions..that way I know im doing it just the way she likes it.....

[imsnowman 34]

ok. I don't have as many experiences with women as I do men but so far my hat goes off to the men. I enjoy a woman's touch but so far it has not compared to that of a man's. Women have made me feel good but men make me melt.

 

~shygirl

Dito from Mrs Imsnowman

[TwaKanPlay 15]

No one can give pleasure better than a man who KNOWS what you like. The audance thing would be a fator I think, as it is usually more privite with my partner and I and we are both more focused on the sex art.

[LaStrata 16]

I think just as there are some men better at it then others, there are also some women who are better at it than others as well. The best oral I recieved from a woman was from a lesbian - she was confident, experienced and knew what she wanted. Some bi females I've been with seem like they are just 'performing a show' for thier spouses rather then being really into it.

[energizerbunny 24]

Hands down, the women I've been with have been far better.

 

Well, I hate to say 'better' because I have met some very talented male mouths in my day. But there's definitely a different quality in the technique from most women, and I'm not sure that I can articulate it.

 

There are a few obvious differences that I can describe. With some (but definitely not all) men, it's apparent that they're down there with a specific goal or reason: because they think it's expected, to get you wet/aroused for intercourse, or to get you off. When most women go down, there's no drive toward a goal - it's simply to be enjoyed, and thoroughly. (This approach, of course, is more likely to get me to the end zone, ironically...)

 

Course I'm speaking as a 'hasbien' who dated lesbians...not sure if it would be different with a "sometimes-bi-but-really-straight" coupled woman or not.

[Barb & Jim 15]

I have been told by more than my share of woman that I'm 1 of the best when it comes to giving oral sex to a woman

[ready2play 24]

I think a woman knows what a woman likes. But my man does me best after many years of practice. The times we were ever with another couple it is usually me that gives oral to the woman. I have only have had it a couple of times by a woman, she did not seem very exprienced in the act.

[carandre 16]

Hi everybody! I'm Andrea, I have some bi sexual experience and my best experience with a woman was once that we were just the two of us in the bedroom, completely alone. I could let myself go and we practised oral sex which I would say was great,to give and receive.... And I think that a woman does it softer than a man, and I like it,though sometimes I also need the strength of a man. Kisses to everyone!!

[JacobSky 17]

This poll was a great idea. I love the responses. Ah, and the naughtyness factor one woman licking another does throw me over the top! I can't wait to see one woman rim another.

[Guy1964 177]

Great input on this. Very informative and thought provoking points of vir.

[Tahoecple 319]

Just a thought, anything you attempt in life you first must be taught how to do what you’re attempting. You’re taught how to drive a car, read a book, use a computer, and the list goes on into infinity. In this society the only education we receive regarding sex is from porn and trial an error. Most of us think we know what we’re doing, but the truth is that’s just an assumption, and you know what they say about assuming anything.

 

Luckily for me I met the woman that became my wife fifty years ago and she took pity on me by teaching me how to please her. Also, the lifestyle was an excellent teacher, any time she was with another person that sent her into mass ecstasy, as soon as I could I found out how they accomplished that and place whatever they did into my repertoire of techniques.

 

So, to answer your question, I don’t think it’s a male or female question, other than two people of the same sex in which most often the use of what one finds pleasurable is what they use on the other, it’s a question of being taught how to please the person you’re with. Being a pleasurable and talented sex partner is an acquired talent, the person that takes the time and effort to learn how to give pleasure is the best lover.

[PSULioness 825]

I am still exploring and learning about my bi side. Normally I woul give a funny answer to this question. Is there any bad oral sex? My answer is if I was the only one who gave you oral a year or so ago the answer would have been yes. I was very hesitant. I should have been better by just doing what I want someone to do to me. It should have been easier than the first time I gave a blow job. I only knew what I saw in porn and by instinct. It took practice to get better.

I think not all of the oral my females have been great. Some have been. Oral sex like all sex can get better when your partner understands what you like.