What age would you meet?

[Half MT 205]

We are early 30’s and feel our upper limit is 8-10 years older. How young is too young? Is a 25 year old young lady and her boyfriend too young for us? If they were married would it be different? 

We only know them online. A big plus there were no nudes given or asked for. 
Age and marital status are my only question. 
*Just a note. We are very new to this with only one time on a vacation as experience. 
 

[shy_couple 458]

Only you can answer this.

 

we started in our 30s +/- 10 was general guideline. Much older and felt too close to our parents. On the younger side, many seemed to lack a maturity that we needed. 
 

The couple we had the best connection with were FWB and around our same age. 
 

We met a couple a little older than we would normally be comfortable with at a party. Struck up a conversation and went back to their room. 
 

so you never know. 

[Skhan 55]

Why not go for 25?  You could teach them many things, and their stamina is a plus. 

But then it is like that that Steely Dan song, "Hey Nineteen."

 

"Hey Nineteen
No we got nothing in common
No we can't talk at all"

[njbm 2,861]

Best rec is to play with people your age. Same likely abilities and stamina. But when we were in our fifties, a couple in their seventies asked us to play while on a lifestyle cruise. We discussed and decided if they have the courage to ask us, we’ll give them a try.  Worth it, we had a very enjoyable experience.  You have to feel an attraction to play. If it’s there, we don’t care about age. 

[AdamGunn2 373]

We also started in our early 50's, and the limits that we put on our SLS profile was 40-60.  But we didn't really pay much attention to that, if the couple that attracted us was outside those limits but otherwise attractive, we'd meet with them and see.  At the club when we were looking for hookups, we didn't even bother asking about age.

 

My advice to you, MT, would not be to worry too much about age. You'll find attractive people of all ages in the LifeStyle. Just beware of immaturity and craziness, those types tend not to make good bed partners.

[smoothpantieBum 1]

As a much older person, i think I'm not unusual in feeling age isn't a factor at all. It used to be, when I was NOT so old, but now I would say I love YOUTH and smooth-smooth skin, bright eyes, and all such desires of the young--but in terms of swinging, or sex in general, I let myself be attracted to whom I feel attracted. On the other hand, I give compliments and I have sex with ONLY those whom I can be or talk with in total sincerity. I don't want to be either mechanical because I don't feel anything, or simply feel bad because I'm lying to myself and thereby cheating. I've always been more or less this way. I'm not after every possible statistic; I've experienced lots of what I love.

[cplnluv1 863]

It is hard to believe that 10 years ago we decided to add some spice to our marriage looking for a unicorn. What we found was a young lady and her older boyfriend. I was 40, she was in her 20s, the boyfriend closer to our age. 
Over the past 10 years we met both older and younger most were within 10 years of our age. Now that we are 50 we have a group we became close to, a few years older, a few younger. Age is strange because I think of all of us as young and as many stated, age is just a number. This summer we met a couple, friends of friends that I would never guess were closer to 70, I figured 60. On the opposite side we have a friend in her 30s who introduced us to a new boyfriend. 

[AdamGunn2 373]

How about lower limits?  When we started swinging in our early 50s, we put a limit of nobody in their twenties.  Except for a few hot MFMs, we pretty much kept that rule.

[Baconheads 425]

Several years ago, I attended a party in the Inland Empire, billed as a bisexual party.  I didn't have any bisexual shenanigans but I met a lovely gal about 70.  I was about 55.  We had a wonderful time, starting out the night together. drifting apart for a while, the reconnecting at the end of the night.  I insisted on a condom for the first encounter, then we went bareback for the end.  She was a prize and came easily, and really turned me on as well.

[enhancer 1,581]

We have a 13 year age difference in our relationship so the age thing doesn’t really matter a whole lot!  Saying that she has no interest in people her parents age and I have no interest in people the age of my adult daughters.  Ideally somewhere between our ages is usually ideal, but would really depend on the person.
 

 I always find it funny when people assume older people can’t relate to younger people and will have nothing in common.  I guess I am to believe once you hit a certain age you become out of touch with what is going on in the world and no longer are willing to learn something new.  I also find the comments about stamina being equal funny.  At 53 I have better stamina and am in better shape then loads of people I meet in their 30’s.  How a person eats, exercises and takes care of themselves makes a bigger difference on that then the age they are.

[cplnluv1 863]

Funny that after answering our 10 year preference we were contacted by a couple 15 years younger than me. How they got our email is more surprising. Several years ago we met their friends that contacted us through a swingers site who were looking for a first for the wife. What I’m reading they met on that same site and the ones we met gave us as a referral for a First. A nice compliment out of nowhere. Alan has been corresponding with the new couple who he thinks are more than 15 years younger. Two negatives are they are young and they sent a nude picture without us asking. Not a sex picture, just naked. We stopped meeting newbies last year and have a smaller group we enjoy. 
I’m not fully sure why we were chosen. Alan said the couple they contacted were not confident in being in the first for her and that I handled their first so well. 
I think the nude photo worked on Alan. What man doesn’t enjoy younger women? My question is why do younger people want us, they know our age. Alan isn’t wrong when he says we should enjoy, there isn’t anything wrong meeting them. 

[MidwestHoneys 355]

18 hours ago, cplnluv1 said:

Alan isn’t wrong when he says we should enjoy, there isn’t anything wrong meeting them. 

You guys aren’t old and they want you so you should enjoy. I’m thinking what it’s like to be recommended to be a first. 

[ExploringOptions 183]

Searching we looked for someone our age. We discussed age and it wasn’t a strict age we wanted people who acted close to our age. 15 years younger would be too young even if my husband wouldn’t agree. 
@cplnluv1 you sound like the Pussy Whisperer that knows how to let a woman be comfortable in her sexuality. The first time I did that I needed to have a fun talk with the other wife first. It went I’ll grab your pussy if you grab mine. Grabbing was one thing , doing the oral had so many laughs. In the end we both did it pretty well. 

[couplers 4,577]

On 6/26/2024 at 3:19 PM, Half MT said:

What age would you meet?

Except for Joe and Shannon, who are four or five years younger than us, we keep it within our poly family.

 

I/we aren't looking, but theoretically for me a guy would have to be early twenties, a younger woman (in her teens) would be nice so long as she was mature, knew what she is doing, sober, etc.  Part of it is that I wish that I had started my sex life earlier, especially my Lesbian activities.

 

Upper limit depends on attitude, intelligence, and appearance, i.e. fitness.  I don’t work hard to stay firm to give my body to some flabby person. 

[cplnluv1 863]

11 hours ago, ExploringOptions said:

I’ll grab your pussy if you grab mine.

I figure that is a joke about a candidate making a comment. The truth is most women never saw or touched another woman down there. What I didn’t realize when we first started meeting others is that women have a better knowledge of seeing penises, all the women have seen, played and had in their mouth some or many men. Almost all have tasted a man and his ejaculate having no knowledge how other women taste. We all know our own bodies, our own anatomy, our own vaginas, never seeing any other vagina close. Men see other men in locker rooms, not up close but they can see what’s hanging. 
I don’t say I’ll grab yours, I do ask do you want to touch mine or do you want me to touch you first. I figure the woman never saw a vagina other than her own, I offer an up close examination. When age is a factor I know my own anatomy changed over the years. I don’t want to scare a much younger woman seeing a vagina that way. 

[PeterJ 927]

1 hour ago, cplnluv1 said:

I figure the woman never saw a vagina other than her own, I offer an up close examination. When age is a factor I know my own anatomy changed over the years. I don’t want to scare a much younger woman seeing a vagina that way. 

Two thoughts. First, my wife and I are in our mid-70s. So, she was in her early to mid-20s during the peak of second-wave feminism. It was not unusual in that era for women to participate in organized groups to learn about their bodies. This wasn’t explicitly sexual, but it did include the sex parts. Kathy took part in a group session of maybe a dozen women. With a mirror they examined their own genitalia and directly were able to visually observe the genitalia of others in the group. 
 

Second, yes, by inference from my close observation, the appearance of women’s parts changes over time. In general, at play parties I’ve attended where the women ranged from their late 20s through their 70s, the younger ones have tighter, less distended labia than the elderly women. I first saw Kathy’s pussy 50 years ago, and then after a long break began consistently seeing it up close and personal starting 37 years ago. She still has a gorgeous pussy, but the lips are noticeably floppier. (This sort of phenomenon happens of course to men as well. My scrotum hangs waaaay further down my thighs than it did even when I was middle-aged…🙄)

[cplnluv1 863]

1 hour ago, PeterJ said:

It was not unusual in that era for women to participate in organized groups to learn about their bodies.

Alan posted that I was bi before we met something he labeled me with. I was just a shy college girl looking for acceptance. My first experience with a girlfriend and a boyfriend was not with lights on, I didn’t inspect, only saw what I think I saw. I went home comparing myself to what I thought I saw. There wasn’t easy access to research, pre Google. I had a makeup mirror to do self inspection or watch myself and a toy, not to compare with others. Was a big clitoris better, I thought hers was bigger. Getting older I learned more, swinging has taught me plenty. How I would love a man to tell me how tight I am. Do I need vaginal rejuvenation? I didn’t notice hanging scrotum on Alan even if it has happened. Now I’m going to worry a younger man will say he doesn’t feel anything. 

[Numex 2,379]

1 hour ago, cplnluv1 said:

Do I need vaginal rejuvenation?

Please don't. There is one woman in our group, not that old 40 maybe, who has a "loose pussy." She is one of my favorites to play with, especially getting sloppy seconds. It is work, a struggle for me to reach orgasm with her (I'm a slow cummer, somewhat deliberately), but when I get there I nearly lose consciousness. She is the only woman who makes me grunt and scream as I cum.

 

If you want to do anything do those pelvic floor exercises, Klegals or whatever they're called. That feels greats for a guy when a woman can manipulate a guys dick with her vagina.

[PSULioness 825]

It depends! My first experiences were with friends my age, a few years on either side. Parties back at school where I graduated led to both a little younger, some old sorority sisters had married or were dating men who are older, not much older, less than 10 years older. Now in my mid thirties I recently had fun with 10 years younger.  Today I’m thinking he is telling stories about an older women he had. 
I am afraid of older men for a reason. After my divorce I met an older man who treated me well at first. He was my knight saving me until he became the dark knight. I realize abusive relationship happen at all ages, abuse is physical and mental. My husband who was my age was mentally abusive to me which led to our split. My older shining knight was abusive in so many ways which became darker with his friends abusing me too. I know not all older men are not monsters, I just can’t get passed my experiences. 

[MidwestHoneys 355]

5 hours ago, PSULioness said:

am afraid of older men for a reason. After my divorce I met an older man who treated me well at first. He was my knight saving me until he became the dark knight. I realize abusive relationship happen at all ages, abuse is physical and mental. My husband who was my age was mentally abusive to me which led to our split. My older shining knight was abusive in so many ways which became darker with his friends abusing me too. I know not all older men are not monsters, I just can’t get passed my experiences. 

Terrible that any man treat you abusively. 
Honey has played with a number of men outside of our age group. 99% of the older gentlemen were grateful that a younger woman pleased them. 
 

PSULioness this is not the first time you mentioned the abuse this man put you through nobody should be unwillingly abused. It can help others by explaining how he abused you. Some women enjoy things like hair pulling, others would call it abuse. Men need to be told No to stop abuse. 
You left an abusive relationship something everyone here is happy. Therapy is needed to mentally get through your pain. Get yourself better.