Has anyone swapped spouses…for awhile?

[njbm 2,932]

There were two players on the New York Yankees, Fritz Peterson and Mike Kekich, I believe, who swapped wives for awhile. Like their wives moved in with the other guy. I think both couples divorced and one of the swaps survived as a new couple.

 

Has anyone swapped wives for more than a night? How did it work out?

[Numex 2,492]

29 minutes ago, njbm said:

Has anyone swapped wives for more than a night?

Both my wife and I have gone on vacations with someone each of us considers "special" in our group, for between a week and two. I've gone on trips with another wife with whom I share non-sexual interests (classical music, theater, museums), which our spouses don't. The trips includes good, fun sex as well, but it's not the primary motivation. My wife has gone on vacations with both the husband and wife of another couple, and with the husband alone. The interest there among the three of them is romantic.

 

35 minutes ago, njbm said:

How did it work out?

In every instance it's worked out fine. The wayward spouse comes home happy, the spouse left at home is glad to see her/him, we all agree it amps up the marital relationships.

[AdamGunn2 423]

When we and a special couple went on vacation together - one as long as two weeks, we slept with the other spouses most nights. We all seemed to enjoy it.

 

But . . . it leads to knowing the other person, and you get to thinking of them as more of a friend than a sexy person.  Puts a different perspective on it.

[njbm 2,932]

You guys are cool. 

[reveur 61]

We have done it with friend  couple, from Friday to Sunday,  we have had book rooms in  two different hotels, it was a very nice and exciting weekend. 

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,478]

My wife had a steady boyfriend for years. They did several weekend getaways together and twice took week-long vacations together.

 

So not quite a "swap" I guess but almost.

[couplers 4,817]

9 hours ago, njbm said:

You guys are cool. 

You're not so hot yourself. 

[couplers 4,817]

1 hour ago, hunterdonNJcpl said:

My wife had a steady boyfriend for years. They did several weekend getaways together and twice took week-long vacations together.

 

6 hours ago, reveur said:

We have done it with friend  couple, from Friday to Sunday,  we have had book rooms in  two different hotels, it was a very nice and exciting weekend. 

 

13 hours ago, Numex said:

Both my wife and I have gone on vacations with someone each of us considers "special" in our group, for between a week and two... The interest there among the three of them is romantic.

You folks have an understanding of our poly life, but imagine living together just swapping bedrooms, having every combination of children together, that's us.

[couplers 4,817]

10 hours ago, njbm said:

You guys are cool. 

 

48 minutes ago, couplers said:

You're not so hot yourself. 

Sorry, I couldn't help myself. 

[njbm 2,932]

11 hours ago, couplers said:

 

Sorry, I couldn't help myself. 

I guess that’s a compliment?

[Shore2Please 615]

We enjoy swapping. Most of our playing has been in separate rooms. 

[couplers 4,817]

7 hours ago, Shore2Please said:

Most of our playing has been in separate rooms.

What does it for me is watching either of "my" men or "my" women having sex, getting jealous over it, then doing it myself either one-on-one with a guy or FFM.

 

But for me, when I'm having sex I don't want music, an audience (if you'd going to watch, be quiet), multiple men at once (except DP), or other distractions.  When I get into it, I'm really into it.

[let's do it again 417]

6 hours ago, couplers said:

What does it for me is watching either of "my" men or "my" women having sex, getting jealous over it, then doing it myself either one-on-one with a guy or FFM.

 

But for me, when I'm having sex I don't want music, an audience (if you'd going to watch, be quiet), multiple men at once (except DP), or other distractions.  When I get into it, I'm really into it.

I am just opposite, I like fast funk music playing and in front of people, especially if my partner likes to also. I can think of 3 different times at parties having sex surrounded by partygoers. I like it more if I don't know many of the people, yet they are shouting encouragement. 

[Shore2Please 615]

On 7/2/2024 at 6:12 AM, couplers said:

What does it for me is watching either of "my" men or "my" women having sex, getting jealous over it, then doing it myself either one-on-one with a guy or FFM.

 

But for me, when I'm having sex I don't want music, an audience (if you'd going to watch, be quiet), multiple men at once (except DP), or other distractions.  When I get into it, I'm really into it.

I don’t want to put on a show or watch a show, I enjoy being made love to. I want my partner to pay attention to me without having to prove anything to an audience 

[TricianMike 795]

6 hours ago, Shore2Please said:

I don’t want to put on a show or watch a show, I enjoy being made love to. I want my partner to pay attention to me without having to prove anything to an audience 

I enjoy when Mike watches me and says he enjoys watching. 

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,478]

2 hours ago, TricianMike said:

I enjoy when Mike watches me and says he enjoys watching. 

We def have a bit of an exhibitionist streak 😜

[bbarnsworth 2,667]

For my wife, it's not putting on a show per se, but she enjoys knowing I am watching and enjoying watching her having sex with another man. When we first got into it with MFMs, she always wanted me to be directly involved. Over time, she learned she really enjoyed me sitting back and enjoying the view.

[Anon321 524]

Not really like that but she has gone on multiple trips with other men. She is going to be going away for a weekend next month with my buddy and she is going to be his date for a wedding. She has made quite a few trips to Vegas with guys over the years.

[couplers 4,817]

On 7/6/2024 at 9:09 AM, bbarnsworth said:

When we first got into it with MFMs, she always wanted me to be directly involved. Over time, she learned she really enjoyed me sitting back and enjoying the view.

She also learned she really enjoyed playing with two men at the same time who are not her husband. 😉

[bbarnsworth 2,667]

Petra, you remember well :) It only happened the one time, but she loved it!

[couplers 4,817]

10 hours ago, bbarnsworth said:

Petra, you remember well :), she loved it!

Your wife likely remembers the event better than you or me.

[Numex 2,492]

On 7/5/2024 at 10:24 AM, Shore2Please said:

I enjoy being made love to.

Among those in our closed group of married couples, with some it is making love with true emotional attachment, and with others it is just fun sex.  Daniela and I have both types.

[Anon321 524]

On 7/5/2024 at 12:24 PM, Shore2Please said:

I don’t want to put on a show or watch a show, I enjoy being made love to. I want my partner to pay attention to me without having to prove anything to an audience 

That seems to be common around here but I would say it's the exact opposite with us.  My GF and I make love together but when she is with other men it is much more of a show.  No lovemaking at all.

[bbarnsworth 2,667]

I had a session somewhat recently with a wonderful lady I've played with several times. I decided to change things up a bit, and became very intentional about making it more like making love. The emotions part was missing; we've played together several times, but there's no real 'love'. Affection, but not love. But, otherwise I did a lot to make it more like making love. I didn't say I was; I just did it. She responded exceptionally well, and seemed to really enjoy it. She never said anything about it, but enjoyed it!

Edited July 10, 2024 by bbarnsworth

[Numex 2,492]

On 7/10/2024 at 5:23 PM, bbarnsworth said:

I ,,, became very intentional about making it more like making love. . But, otherwise I did a lot to make it more like making love. I didn't say I was; I just did it. She responded exceptionally well, and seemed to really enjoy it. She never said anything about it, but enjoyed it!

To me the way I, or my wife or really the others in our group, has sex doesn't seem different whether it's love making or just a casual fuck, with our spouses or one of the others.  Of course either can run the spectrum from slow and tender to a hard banging, but either can be love or just sex.  It's the unseen emotions inside that are the difference.

 

That's I think why people in the vanilla world can get confused about whether their relationship is love or just a fuck buddy.  In our group though we talk about it when the clothes are on about how we feel.

 

 

Edited July 14, 2024 by Numex

[KatrinaandDriverX 138]

Katrina here, we’ve done this twice in the last year. The sex is more personal, so much more engaged and intense. It’s like a fantasy respite. No concerns returning to my real life, at all. Yet for that four day weekend and one full week, I was never so thrilled to have another man’s lips upon mine, his hands over my flesh or cock cumming inside of me or down my throat. I was thrilled to have him, have me.

[Naked_Fun 0]

We were part of a group that would exchange spouses for a weekend getaway. Twice a year, the men one weekend and the ladies the next would draw names blindly and plan a 3-day weekend getaway with one of the men/ ladies in our group. We were a group of (5) couples that aged from 30-55 from the NY/NJ metro area. 

 

This was very much like dating the other persons spouse. It was two days / nights with a new partner so to speak. The banter leading up to the select weekend was fun and exciting. The reclaiming your spouse afterwards was equally exciting to hear what they got to experience, and enjoy. This made for fun play before and after the “getaway weekend”.
 

Beach getaways to Sandy Hook, and Atlantic City, others enjoyed a weekend in NYC with visits to popular couples clubs La Trapeze or Checkmates. Concerts or casino’s, sometimes both were enjoyed. Cove Haven in Poconos with its champagne glass jacuzzi was another fun place enjoyed. It wasn’t a weekend of just sex, it was a weekend of fun and new experiences while being in a committed relationship. We kept our group small to prevent drama. 
 

It was great fun, many years later members of the group, some married, some divorced reminisce about those weekends and house parties enjoyed.

 

Gone are the days, not the memories.

 

 

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[couplers 4,817]

On 6/30/2024 at 3:19 PM, njbm said:

Has anyone swapped spouses…for awhile?

We in our poly family have occasionally played outside our family, but nothing for more than an overnight.  That is until we started with Joe and Shannon.  Since then there have been occasions when one of us have had up to long weekends with one of them.  Good fun, but we all prefer two or more of us playing with both of them.

[WesternSwing 521]

I've never swapped spouses for a period of time, but being polyamorous both my ex-wife and I spent weekends and such with our other partners.