What about something a swing partner would do that your regular partner will not?

[robnbarb 41]

Me and the wife discussed this yesterday and thought it would make an interesting topic. Basically it came up because she will not swallow during oral, she hates the taste. I really don't have a problem with this but I thought "what if we find another couple and she wants to swallow?" My wife was unsure what to say; on the one hand she thought why not since she wouldn't, but on the other hand she felt a tinge of jealousy.

 

As we talked, we also talked about more things she would not do. While there isn't much she will not do with me, she does have limits (i.e. anal sex). So we got to thinking about how other couples may handle this.

 

So basically is there anything you will not do but would allow someone else to do to your mate?

[good times 991]

No, if another woman does something to me that my wife doesn't or vice versa, we would call that a bonus. Thats assuming, of course it is something we enjoy.

 

For example, my wife can't quite swallow my dick completely without gagging, but several women we play with can, it's all good to us.

[friskyous 17]

We place no limits, it's about enjoying yourself and going with the flow, I honestly don't think theres anything someone else could show us that we haven't done together but if there is, I'd be willing to learn a new trick or two. It's about exploring new territories right?

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I had some friends run into this at a party a few years ago. The couple was like you, the female would not swallow/ would not allow a guy to come in her mouth at all. The male was playing with another friend of mine and she LOVES to swallow and told him to come in her mouth. The wife of the guy got really pissed off.

 

This is something I don't get, if it's something your partner enjoys but you won't do, then why deny them that pleasure with someone who will?

[ALilOEverything 901]

I consider that a bonus as well. There are definitely some things that I won't do or don't do well that I think it's great he can experience with someone else. I don't care to swallow, I have a strong gag reflex and I just can't seem to do it without gagging. Also my husband likes a woman to Dom him and I'm not that good at it so when a woman wants to Dom/sub with him all the better for him. I don't mind it that she might be better, I just take the opportunity to learn from her since I'm kind of learning the ropes (pun intended). Also anal is a no go for me but if a woman wanted to enjoy that with him all the more power to them both.

[stoutgatte 25]

We've discussed this a bit too, our biggest concern is that the partner who doesn't get the "bonus" treatment feels cheated since the other one did. As a result we'll try to avoid such situations.

[Spoomonkey 421]

At first, my response was "we don't do with someone else what we won't do with each other."

 

But - then I read good times post and I realized that this isn't always true. Everyone we are with is unique in their own way. We have one playmate with a freakish, snake-like tongue... I don't have such a miracle of nature... But Mrs Spoo likes it

 

Doggy style had always been a little tough for us to figure out, until I was with a woman who really knew her stuff! Now we do it perfectly here at the ranch.

 

But - aside from differences in technique, I'd have to say that we won't do with others what we don't do with each other. Now - I can say that because we pretty much do everything - but where it becomes practical, I suppose is on the subject of anal sex. We don't with each other - we won't with others.

 

For us that is such a small issue anyway because we're neither one particularly interested. In fact, she's more interested than I am - and she fears the little monkey

 

I guess I'd feel a little jealous - to be totally honest - if she said, "you don't do this - so I am going to do this with him." That would kind of bug me... She feels the same way - thus, the rule was made...

 

Spoomonkey

[xxoticangel 99]

Anal-

Angel enjoys anal sometimes and loves it during DP's but given the choice would rather do vaginal. Also I am the only guy she has done anal with and we consider it special. However, since I have done anal with several women in the past I have taken a swinging partner anally during DP. Angel doen't have a problem with this since it is not as special in reverse. There are many things that we would not do while swinging that are common in our bedroom but nothing that we would do with someone else we would not do together.

[Greg & Sheryl 369]

I am the only guy she has done anal with and we consider it special. However, since I have done anal with several women in the past I have taken a swinging partner anally during DP. Angel doen't have a problem with this since it is not as special in reverse.

Our situation is similar, although it may change in the future. When we started having anal sex together, Sheryl initially declined to do so with anyone else. However, she has since softened that position and would consider doing so with someone she felt particularly comfortable with (probably one of our closer friends in the lifestyle). We haven’t met too many ladies who admit to enjoying anal in swinging situations, but Greg got the chance to perform anal on a swing partner for the first time this past summer. Eventually, perhaps we will attempt a DP.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Interesting question. I have a friend who is invited as a third occasionally for a couple where the guy will not give oral sex. So my friend is invited to fill the void (so to speak).

 

Personally, I've seen couples where because SHE won't swallow she has a rule that he can't let anyone else swallow either.... and I think it's rather silly. Now the other side of that coin.... if she wouldn't swallow him but WOULd swallow for other guys... I can see where that would be a HUGE issue.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

We call it a bonus too.

 

Mrs two4you can't and doesn't swallow. It's not that she doesn't want to, it's just that her gag reflex kicks in big time.

 

It's not a big deal to me, but we do have one or two play couples where the female really likes to do it. So, Mrs two4you really likes the fact that someone else can make that happen for me from time to time.

 

As for me, I can't do the "rough sex" thing. I'm just not wired that way, and can't really do that very well. Mrs two4you likes the rough sex sometimes. Not all the time, but occasionally. Once again, the male half of one of our play couples is very good at it. So, she gets to experience something she likes that I am not that good at.

 

In the business world, I think they call that a "Win-Win".

[sexcupid 809]

On some level, I few this question as sort of a double edged sword.

 

The more enlightened part of me wants to say, 'Hey...if there is a swing partner out there that is willing to do XYZ and I don't like to do it and I know he does...then go for it!' Because really...why are we doing this except for variety?

 

On the other hand...because the little devil on my shoulder won't shut up...depending on what it is exactly we're talking about, I may have a problem. Is it something he's asked me to do, and I won't for whatever reason? Then the above statement would apply (go for it!)...however, I am game for just about anything. So if there was something he liked/enjoyed/wanted to try...why wouldn't he bring the idea to me first?

 

For example...if your partner is curious about rimming. You hear him asking a play partner to do it for him and they do....ideally he'll have a good reaction to it...so on and so forth. Now, if you are the kind of person who is willing to try anything at least once or twice (just to make sure)...something like this would not make me happy...not necessarily pissed off or anything to cause a scene...but there would be questions as to why he couldn't ask me to do it for him.

 

Now, if the play partner was down on him or whatever and just went ahead and did something and afterwards he said...'omg baby...let me tell you what she did...'...I consider that to be an entirely different situation...one that once discussed, could also fall into the first category of 'eh, not quite my cuppa...but if you find someone who likes to do it...go for it.'

 

Maybe I'm just over thinking things again...I've been known to do that you know...

[Guest screaminggood]

I've had partners rim me, but my hubby never has....but he knows I love it and respond to it. No problems.

 

Lots of women love to deep throat him, and he enjoys it, but with me, he doesn't like me to do it--he loves for me to lick and suck but on his head.

 

As long as it's fun and it's within "our rules" we're okay.

[Bama0468 93]

we have only 2 rules I can think of ( outside of that we are not into pain, potty, yadda yadda) 1)no one does anal on her but me, her rule as I am gentle with her to get going, and she doesn't want someone thinking they can just RAM it in. 2) if one of us says no, then its no period, neither of us argue about it.

 

As per topic, She will not swallow, nor does she care much for cum in her mouth ( I have been meaning to try that Pineapple juice or egg nog deal) however when encountering parteners should we happen to be with a couple where the lady does, she will not be jealous or angry, as others have said

 

BONUS!

[Tia Vampire 167]

My SO will not play rough with me. Sometime I like it rough. Not enough to draw blood or leave bruises, but enough to make me want him to go deeper.

[sweet_tna 680]

Here's the thing. Aside of the "usual" taboo stuff, there's not much Mr. Sweet and I don't do together. The few things we've tried and found to be not our cup of tea (okay, usually mine), I/we don't mind if a willing playmate wants to do. So add another tally mark to the "BONUS" column.

 

=)

[sereneiders 263]

So, basically... ¿what's the bottom line here? ¿That we swing but only when the other partners stick strictly to our very limitations?

 

I HOPE my wife's playmate to be able to do whatever I didn't engage into, that my wife could enyoy! And then let me know to improve myself!

 

I believe the fear here comes from the chance of finding someone able to "do it better" than ourselves (where to "just do" something you don't, is "better" from scratch).

 

As for me (or, for us), I am pretty sure there are many guys able to do something better than myself... but not EVERYTHING I do, the way I do it, and that's enough for me.

 

Besides, our relationship is a building, it took a lot of time and effort to build it, brick by brick, and make it the way we both love it. Let's suppose there is a guy able to blow up my wife's head in bed... you don't have a remote idea of how much he'd have to row, before even having a chance to reach a brick to remove! Really, allow me to watch his efforts an laugh.

 

Definatelly, sex is a binding thing, but it isn't, by far, what bond us togheter. No mater of what, sex won't be able to undind us.

[foozballnow 31]

I think thats part of the fun of swinging. Being able to try new things that you might not get a chance to try. One couple we were with the male half liked to suck toes while he had sex, the Mrs. Fooz loved that. I do no like feet lol. At all

[Cpl2share 147]

Our rule is that we do not do with a playpartner what we refuse to do for each other. For example: Mrs. Cpl hates cum in her mouth, in fact she doesn't really care ot suck dick either, but does it to please me. She would not even consider letting another guy cum in her mouth though if the situation is right would give a little head. I have very few limitations, and have never refused anything to her, yep the term pussy whipped does apply here. LOL We do have a bit of double standard there maybe, but then again: She does like BI play while I have no interest in it. We both get turned on by her and another woman playing, but we are both turned off by the thought of me playing with another guy.

[Guest Slinkysdew]

Can't think of ANY thing that we don't or won't do for each other

But we do enjoy seeing the other one get some sort of "bonus". When a man does the misses exceptionally well I feel grateful to live a life that allows her to experience it.

[YZF 8]

This came up just this past weekend for Mrs. YZF and me. Mrs. YZF asked to break one of our taboos (I had been secretly wanting to watch her do it anyway) and I said, "Go for it." Turned out to be great fun for both of us.

[VANudistcpl 109]

Who really hasn't had this topic come up? We decided that it would depend on the heat of the moment and what line would be crossed. Of course anything extra is a bonus

[The Fuse 1,012]

Not a problem for me if Mr. Fuse does something with a playmate that we've never done. Whatever they do, it's just sex. If he gets a chance to do something different, as long as it doesn't change his life or something, I'm all for it. If he were to bring some new experience into our bed for us to duplicate, I'd be psyched as long as it wasn't something I had an aversion to.

 

It might be a different story if there were something one of us really wanted, that the other one didn't want to do with each other. Then the potential is there to get needs or desires met with a playmate that aren't being met in the marriage. That could feel like a threat and I could see a reasonable person being uncomfortable with that. The original issue with one person not wanting to do something is a separate issue that deserves attention, but not in this thread.

 

I've had at least two playmates whose wives don't let them come in their mouths, and at least one who didn't like to give blow jobs at all with her husband because of a bad childhood experience. I've had both of them do it with me. This last couple didn't have a lot of experience and I hope it was all right. I haven't heard anything negative so far, and they say they want to see us again, so we'll see. There's another current playmate whose wife has physical limitations about giving him oral, and they're both very happy for him to do it with me (yum).

 

I won't get do anal with a playmate, because it's not something we've done much at home. We are slowly exploring that. A playmate wants to do it, though he would never push. I'd like to try it with him but I won't unless my husband says it's okay. This same playmate also gets into a little light domination, which my husband can't even play-act (just too nice and placid a person). With the playmate it's completely hot, and my husband doesn't seem to have a problem with it.

[Miss Sunshine 29]

we are pretty much game to try anything. We have done things with others that we would not normally do with each other, but we feel that is the fun part of swinging. We had one couple that introduced us to a couple of things that we would never do with each other, but do only with them when we get together. It is very kinky but we feel very satisfied after, we would never do it at home.

[Baconheads 438]

We had one couple that introduced us to a couple of things that we would never do with each other, but do only with them when we get together. It is very kinky but we feel very satisfied after, we would never do it at home.

 

Hmmmmm.... Do tell....

[almostnewbies 18]

Well there isn't much (I don't think) we haven't tried with each other so if a play partner could add something to our repretoire I'd say go for it! There are things that we do at home we wouldn't do at a party though, kind of nice to have something be just ours...but then ya never know, if a play partner wanted to try it and hadn't done it before we might be willing to teach them...

[willyoats 324]

My wife has literally never done anything with another guy that she has not done with me. You see, she has done everthing for me that I ever wanted, which is just about everything any guy could ask. There are a couple of things that only I have done with her: anal and come in the mouth. She doesn't like either of those, so we didn't do them more than a couple of times many years ago.

 

To answer the question straight up, I don't "allow" anything. She, not I, decides what she wants, needs and will permit.

[ktimephoenix 156]

I understand if a person doesn't like doing something (anal, swallowing cum, whatever), but to rule it out for your partner to do it to a playmate that LOVES doing that sort of thing? screams "control issues" to me.

 

Mrs P and i have the opposite problem... NOTHING is off limits in our bedroom (only rule is, if the word "elephant" is said, we stop... because sometimes no means yes with us )

 

we have to keep that side in check when we swing, as to not shock the absolute shit out of our partners (Mrs P has no problem taking it anally without being gentle first for example).

[YZF 8]

Just a couple of days ago, Mrs. YZF and the wife half of the couple we were playing with gave me a tandem blowjob. When I got ready to cum, the wife moved away and Mrs. YZF completed the deed and swallowed. When it was the hubby's turn and he was about to cum, Mrs. YZF having received no signal to the contrary, took the load in her mouth and swallowed.

 

This made the wife mad.

[YZF 8]

Mrs P has no problem taking it anally without being gentle first for example.

 

Our way around this is for me to loosen up Mrs. YZF first. I do the lube, first insertion and first few minutes. Once she is taking it comfortably, I move aside and the play partners take over. That takes care of the

ram it in from the start" problems.

[bbarnsworth 2,653]

I understand if a person doesn't like doing something (anal, swallowing cum, whatever), but to rule it out for your partner to do it to a playmate that LOVES doing that sort of thing? screams "control issues" to me.

 

Mrs P and i have the opposite problem... NOTHING is off limits in our bedroom (only rule is, if the word "elephant" is said, we stop... because sometimes no means yes with us )

 

we have to keep that side in check when we swing, as to not shock the absolute shit out of our partners (Mrs P has no problem taking it anally without being gentle first for example).

 

We don't have really anything off limits in our bedroom, but even if we did we wouldn't stop each other from doing whatever it is with someone else.

 

My wife's not a big fan of anal sex. She'd never done it before me. It's often uncomfortable for her, and I have to be very careful. Since we started having anal sex, I learned that I am considerably above average girth. This may be the source of her discomfort. Especially so since smaller dildos are more pleasurable for her. I've voiced to her that if we find a willing male who is a lot thinner in girth she should try anal with him. She's iffy right now but agrees it'd probably be more pleasurable.

 

My wife has said that if we're with another woman and she wants anal sex, that it's fine if I do.

[Additude 457]

My wife and I have very few rules. It seems we just respect each other and personally, I feel if she wants to do something and is comfortable with it then yea-boy! She doesn't like to swollow cum, except when she is doggie and has one she is sucking on and he or I cum in her mouth. A few times she has actually told me to cum in her mouth in that situation and swollowed. But she is pretty reserved all around, so maybe I feel comfortable with that more so.

[toycple 19]

As far as I know my wife has no problems with me doing things with other women that she won't. My wife won't do anal but we have a few friends that have offered it to me, she says go for it. So at this point I thinkanything is good.

[JustMrJ 178]

As others have said... It's a bonus, aside from things both of us won't do. (potty, pain, etc.)

 

I asked my wife if she would have a problem with another woman wanted to swallow my load. She said "No, that would be a treat for you.".

[Pensacolapair 394]

Hmm..we see this issue from a different angle than apparently many do.

 

My wife and I have nothing sexual that we won't do for each other...we've tried quite a bit and anything either of us really liked became permanant items in our playbook. Personally, I think it's because we really enjoy seeing each other seriously into whatever is being done at any particular time.

 

If someone doesn't want to swallow, do anal, or anything else - that is definatly their prerogative - no one should ever do anything that they don't want to. But keep in mind that it's a sword that cuts both ways. We feel for you if there is something you like that your partner isn't game for, we really do - but not enough to share your pain..perhaps it's a flaw in our character.

 

We actually have a line in our online profile that says, "we won't do anything for you that your own partner won't do". Why? Over the years we've encountered a few too many couples who have 'don't go there' issues within their sexual relationship - and the solution they've come up with is to ask others to settle for less enjoyment so that one of them can get a fix the other isn't willing to provide.

 

The way we look at it, with the exception of physical restrictions, what 'something your partner won't do for you' comes down to is 'something your partner won't do for someone else either'. Follow along here: If, say for example, my wife swallows - wouldn't it be a safe bet that I enjoy having my load swallowed? Why would/should I put myself in a position to have to settle for something less than I enjoy so that some other guy can get what he is already used to not having? Selfish? Um.. if so, then the guy enjoying what his wife ain't gonna do with me is standing under that same banner with me! Sorry..but that's not far away from 'my wife won't fuck me, but she doesn't mind if someone else does'

 

I once had a blissfully clueless fellow point out a particular wife at a party and confide in me that "She'll do anal! That's where me and the other guy's whose wives won't do anal plug in at!"

How quaint...

M

[PB&J 1,086]

Yes, but sometimes it's a mutual thing. F'rinstance.... the friends we played with last weekend. She loooves to swallow, I just can't, but think it's great when he cums on my tits. However, there are times when he really really wants to cum on the tits. (And of course my husband doesn't mind being swallowed at all- not that he doesn't like the tits -or ass- option). So we all get what we want. Nobody settles for second-best. As we all agreed- "Variety is the spice of life." Corny but true.

[Guest screaminggood]

My husband has never rimmed me, but a partner did once and it was incredible. He knows I love it, so he's fine with me enjoying it.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

My husband has never rimmed me, but a partner did once and it was incredible. He knows I love it, so he's fine with me enjoying it.

It seems like each time JoAnn experiences a man for the first time she comes back to me with a story, "Well, here's another guy whose tongue went straight for my butt." She likes it and I know it. Good for her because she is definitely not going to get any of that action at home. I'm with your husband on this one.

 

~Michael

[starryeyes 23]

He will do anything to me that I like or have found that I like. So in that aspect he's great!! Me on the other hand have never been able to swallow... don't really know why I don't and trust us, we have tried a variety of things for me to be able to do it. What's weird is that I can go down on gal after my hubby or her hubby has cum in her and that's not a problem. Actually get real turned on from it, guess I have a kinky streak.

 

But as for letting another guy cum in my mouth, not happening until I have successfully done if for my hubby!